10 girl-friendly parenting tips and strategies

Aditya Singhal - 28 Jan 19

Even though boys and girls are brought up the same way, they show different behaviors and have different strengths and weaknesses, so it makes sense to support and educate boys and girls in a gender-specific way. Nevertheless, there are some parenting principles that are good for both sexes. Parenting girls is a bit more complex because of the role expectations that have grown over the centuries. A strong girl must learn to clearly define her goals, formulate wishes and delineate oneself. Read more to know how you can help your daughter become a strong girl:

1. Self-knowledge:

Every mother and father has unconscious ideas of how a girl or a woman should be or has to be. Be aware and do not just transfer these beliefs to your daughter(s). Let them get their own experiences and learn. Just be there with her in every situation.

2. Perfectionism trap:

If your daughter likes to do a specific thing, make sure you let her do it in her own way. Don’t try to make her perfect in every single thing. In fact, it would be nice if you do not preach about being perfect at all times. With time, you will see that she has her own special skills and her own interests. Great women do not have to be perfect! Always recognize her school achievements as well as achievements in other fields; even if they are not self-evident. If academically, you find them not doing too well in school in tough subjects, instead of focusing on their weakness.. help them to seek extra learning through online tutoring websites such as Crunch Grade from the comfort of their homes.

3. Take interest:

For the self-esteem of girls, it is important that both parents are honestly interested in the everyday growth of the child.  Ask about how her day was in school, how her friends are and who her favorite teacher is! Include her in small decisions of home. Let her feel that she is equally important for you.

4. Difficult environment:

You do not have to talk about the centuries-long domination of women with your daughter, but be there when she leaves the sheltered room of a school. For example, if it does not work out with the training, you can help her out with your own life experiences and make it clear that working life often still follows traditional male rules. You must not teach her to obey them but ask about her opinion on these matters.

5. Faithfulness:

Be authentic and confident in what you want to convey. Do not allow yourself to be influenced by well-intentioned advice in your parenting if you do not stand by it. So you stay credible for your girl. Do not become a role model who doesn’t stand by what they say. If you promise them something, fulfill it. If you can’t, let them know they need to deserve it before they desire it.

6. Reflect your behavior:

Sometimes, you may accidentally role model a few unhealthy habits for your daughter. Giving a serious thought at your own behavior can help you to change some unloved habits. Make sure you do not gossip in front of your kid. You must not have fights or arguments with your spouse in front of them. Your child will notice the difference and will gradually adjust to it.

7. Stay calm:

Girls learn and adapt more quickly to their adolescence. They also expect their parents to be confident in them and trust their actions. You need to stay calm when its anything important related to your girl child, like her first school, first nanny. You need to make sure not to rush into any decisions.

8. Find a good time:

In a relaxed atmosphere, conversations are easier. You cannot force them, but they can always offer opportunities. For example, you can always talk and have a good time over dinner, during a drive or before going to bed. A friendly talk at a good time will help to develop a strong bond and your daughter feel emotionally secure with you.

9. Listen to your daughter:

It’s not so easy to listen to some irrelevant stories and not throw in any useful comment. But teenagers automatically shut up when they realize their story is being used against them. Try to listen openly and without being biased towards it.

10. Question yourself:

Start with yourself and question what role you actually play in our daughter’s life. Is it always the mother who comforts and knows which shoe size the child has? Ask yourself what I think about her? Do I understand her? What are my hopes from her?”Make sure you express those feelings to your daughter, and her future will be happier and positive than ever.

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