What Are The Rules?

Sian Syvret - 10 Feb 16

Every night I come upstairs to bed, I check on the kiddies, turn on their night light, and quite often I’ll just stand there watching them, fast asleep, snoring, mouth open, pillows rearranged to how I made the bed, duvet in a twist somewhere near their legs, and I just become so full of love for these 2 beautiful kids of mine, who earlier on in the day were absolute little shits! Wouldn’t think it now to look at them, so innocent, and peaceful. Is it possible to love them more when they’re asleep? Lol.

I know for every child the behaviour phases are different. My daughter was an angel compared to her brother, but those 2 together, can make me go from patient loving mum, to “I’m going to kick your ass and send you to bed as early as I can mum” within 5minutes. Funny cause always thought I’d have more patience when I had my own kids, guess I get that from my Dad. I remember him being short tempered, who can blame him if my brothers and I were as bad as my 2 are, haha.

I don’t know any tips on how to gain more patience or how to learn when maybe I should just breath, count to 10 and calmly say, “please don’t wind your brother up”, “will you stop taking your sisters puzzle pieces away”, “can you just play nicely while i sort tea” …. after you’ve heard your name being repeated a million times followed by, “he’s still doing it”, “he won’t share with me”, it’s really hard to find that calm place and instead this raging psycho mum voice comes out, and the kids just sit there and look at you. I find myself doing that voice more often than I should, but again… It doesn’t work.

So what will work, “if you carry on there will be no TV after school” .. Not a reaction, they don’t care.

“There’s no iPad over the weekend” … That just about works upto a point.

“No DVDs in bed over the weekend” … They don’t care.

“Go and sit on the naughty step, it is not acceptable to behave like that” … They sit on it, they cry, they have their time on the step, they apologise, and they know exactly what they did to get on the step, they play the cute kids, “I won’t do it again” … But they do! and they’re right back on that step within half an hour of last time, LOL!

It is just so time consuming, and exhausting, and also frustrating having to go over and over the same things, sticking t the same rules, just so that hopefully at some point, they start to listen and we do eventually get through to them.

My kids aren’t unruly tears ways, they have boundaries, but like any other child, they also like to push those boundaries, see what they can and can’t get away with, and on good days, a stern telling off is all they need. Those good days are very few and far between! Haha. Just another perk of being a mum to 2 beautiful, characteristic kiddies ❤️

Sian Syvret

Typical stay at home mum of 2 kiddies. Enjoy lazy days in pjs with kids and partner. Very bubbly, and can be loud!

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