Things I Wish I’d Known Before Becoming A Mum

Yvonne Telford - 14 Apr 16

These are the things I wish I knew before becoming a mum.

1. My relationship with my husband will change. It will need attention.
2. I’ll be an emotional mess. I’ll cry when I am happy, I’ll cry when I am sad… I’ll just cry.
3. Baby blues is  very real. Looking back now, I suffered from it but did not know at the time.
4. My body will never be the same again.
5. I would have less sex.
6. I’ll change careers.
7. That having kids would enhance all of my insecurities.
8. It is easy for me to pass my insecurities on to my daughters without even trying or knowing.
9. I wish I knew how to worry less – if something was really wrong, I’d definitely know.
10. In the early days, I’ll be tired, sleep deprived, and angry (which means I’ll argue unnecessarily with my husband).
11. Expensive baby grows are a waste of money. Nappies do leak and babies outgrow them pretty fast.
12. Not to have bothered with a birth plan. I had a C-section.
13. I wish I knew that having a C-section would make me feel like a failure (but shouldn’t have).
14. Competing with and judging other mums is pointless. We are all trying to be good enough mums.
15. Parenting is hard work; it does not need perfection and I’ll make mistakes.
16. My instincts are always right.
17. For the rest of my life, I am responsible for two humans beings.
18. My love for my kids would grow every day. But it is not every day I’ll be happy with them.
19. Never to compare my kids to your kids.
20. It is not my duty to change into what I’d like them to be. They are enough just the way they are.
21. All children have their path. They learn differently and at a different rate.
22. I wish I knew that my daughters won’t care much for stuff, all they want is my love and for me to be their biggest champion.
23. No matter what I do as a parent, they’ll be one person praising me and the other criticising me.
24. My brain will never be the same again.

Yvonne Telford

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