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I have ticked off most things people ideally want to achieve by 30. I have owned two homes, three cars, been engaged, married, travelled, I enjoy my job and have a wonderful child and then I am also about to be divorced. Through my own choice, but never the less I don’t know many people who are married at 29 never mind divorced. Have a failed?
I have been wanting to post for a while on SM but haven’t yet felt settled enough in my current ’life’ situation until now. I turn 30 this year and as most people at this stage in life, begin to reflect on
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where they are in their lives and what they have achieved.
I have trawled the internet, sought advise from friends, family & quite frankly anyone that would listen to me. Stupid really, but at times I have felt hopeless in my situation. Not that I won’t be ok, because I am more than ok but to seek confidence in my decisions as a mother as and ex wife.
I moved to Devon whilst my sons father moved back to the Midlands. Miles apart, accused of taking our child away but even the strongest of women need help from their parents, my only family, my
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only shoulder to lean on. Because in all honestly, people have their own shit to get on with and only your retired parents have to time to deal your 28 year old homeless arse. Your friends can’t be constant help with your day in/day out general struggles, they have their own.
I have never lived within 100 miles of my parents in my adult life so to move into their home, with my 2 year old child was on ask on all parties. We stayed 6 months with them and moved on into our own rented home. We needed to move, I needed to move as a Mother, to parent my
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child again, alone as I had been.
Being a single mother isn’t hard, you just do it. I work full time and run my own business from home when my son is in bed. I do this so we can live in a house we actually like, in an area we like. We don’t have huge luxuries, what kids need that? Our home is our luxury. We are safe, we are happy and we are so so lucky to live in such an amazing part of the world. A place we wouldn’t have been in should all of the above not happened.
What I am trying to say is, it’s ok not to meet ’expectations’. As a mother,
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as a human. Just do you thing. I am learning not to question too much about life and to just breathe and enjoy it.
By the time I turn 30 I have done what most dream and have now started all over again but you know what… I’m just as happy and have an amazing three year old side kick to share the adventure with.
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Amy Walker - 10 Mar 16
I have ticked off most things people ideally want to achieve by 30. I have owned two homes, three cars, been engaged, married, travelled, I enjoy my job and have a wonderful child and then I am also about to be divorced. Through my own choice, but never the less I don’t know many people who are married at 29 never mind divorced. Have a failed?
I have been wanting to post for a while on SM but haven’t yet felt settled enough in my current ‘life’ situation until now. I turn 30 this year and as most people at this stage in life, begin to reflect on where they are in their lives and what they have achieved.
I have trawled the internet, sought advise from friends, family & quite frankly anyone that would listen to me. Stupid really, but at times I have felt hopeless in my situation. Not that I won’t be ok, because I am more than ok but to seek confidence in my decisions as a mother as and ex wife.
I moved to Devon whilst my sons father moved back to the Midlands. Miles apart, accused of taking our child away but even the strongest of women need help from their parents, my only family, my only shoulder to lean on. Because in all honestly, people have their own shit to get on with and only your retired parents have to time to deal your 28 year old homeless arse. Your friends can’t be constant help with your day in/day out general struggles, they have their own.
I have never lived within 100 miles of my parents in my adult life so to move into their home, with my 2 year old child was on ask on all parties. We stayed 6 months with them and moved on into our own rented home. We needed to move, I needed to move as a Mother, to parent my child again, alone as I had been.
Being a single mother isn’t hard, you just do it. I work full time and run my own business from home when my son is in bed. I do this so we can live in a house we actually like, in an area we like. We don’t have huge luxuries, what kids need that? Our home is our luxury. We are safe, we are happy and we are so so lucky to live in such an amazing part of the world. A place we wouldn’t have been in should all of the above not happened.
What I am trying to say is, it’s ok not to meet ‘expectations’. As a mother, as a human. Just do you thing. I am learning not to question too much about life and to just breathe and enjoy it.
By the time I turn 30 I have done what most dream and have now started all over again but you know what… I’m just as happy and have an amazing three year old side kick to share the adventure with.
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Hello. I am a full time Mother to Lennox and full time Graphic Designer. I also own my own kids brand Lennie & Co, that I print and run from home. I was a wife until October 2014 and I am now re discovering life in Exeter, Devon as a single mother.
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