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5 Signs you are in a toxic relationship

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Sometimes we find one of the most difficult things to do is to let go of people we love. Even if those people drain us and exhaust our every emotion. It’s okay to let them go and cut the ties.

One 10 year long Harvard study of Australian friendships had shown that 22% of solid friendship groups were more likely to live longer having surrounded themselves with happiness. Some would say that happiness itself is ’infectious’.

Over the years I have had many toxic relationships, having the courage to move on and let them go was never an easy one.

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Along with those relationships, I said goodbye to others I didn’t want too. Toxic doesn’t mean that that person is a ’bad’ person, for me it just means that they are not right for me. It doesn’t serve me or them to have this relationship.

Knowing what I know now, I am okay to move and grow apart, allowing room in my heart for others. Using my positive energy for new friendships or relationships, different experiences and creating memories that are happier rather than those of dread.

Do you have someone who is draining you? Are they taking all

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your energy away and you find it hard to shake them off?

It just maybe that ’cutting ties’ is also what they need to become happier… Surround yourself with happiness and that is what you shall receive.
5 Signs You’re In A Toxic Relationship.
1/ Neediness – You are needed for absolutely everything. So much so that unlike most friendships when you are needed so much that you are exhausted. Emotionally and physically drained for constant need and wants.

When your friend has an over need for your attention, support, even financial, physical

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needs. It is okay to need support from our fiends, however if you become the only support and the only one holding this friend up than this can be seen as a toxic relationship.

2/ Symptoms – Friendships should be those of happiness. Spending time with your friends or relationships such lighten you up and make your feel good or happier. If you are spending time with your friend and coming aware with headaches, cramps, exhaustion, anxiety; than this is not  a healthy relationship for you.

3/ Dread – If you are dreading spending time with a person or

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the thought of being around that person causes dread, this is not healthy. We want to surround ourselves with people we want to be around and spend time with.

We are not forced to have a relationship with a person. If we don’t want to be with them or if we find ourselves making excuses not to see them, than it maybe a sign to ’cut-ties’ or spend less time with that person.

4/ They don’t know – most of the time the person who is toxic to us isn’t aware of their own flaws or how they are acting around you. When it comes to opening up to your

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friend or in the relationship about how ’needy’ or ’ungrateful’, whatever it maybe; if you had a true meaningful and open relationship, the person will react with concern, take the feedback and work on any constructive acknowledgement. If this person is over sensitive or reacts defensively. It maybe that this person isn’t ready to change and this will continue to be toxic.

5/ Good days and Bad days – we all have off days, but if a relationship we are in is constantly changing and unpredictable; it can make it hard to know which person will show

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up. This can create anxiety, depression, uncertainty for a person. This is toxic for your mental and emotional wellbeing. It maybe time to break up this relationship.

 

Do you think you maybe in a toxic relationship? Do you know how to approach the relationship and begin the process of changing it? 

Why not be part of a supportive, nurturing and trustworthy group of Mumma’s just like you. 

Join here: Health Conscious Mumma’s Lounge

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- 30 Sep 17

Sometimes we find one of the most difficult things to do is to let go of people we love. Even if those people drain us and exhaust our every emotion. It’s okay to let them go and cut the ties.

One 10 year long Harvard study of Australian friendships had shown that 22% of solid friendship groups were more likely to live longer having surrounded themselves with happiness. Some would say that happiness itself is ‘infectious’.

Over the years I have had many toxic relationships, having the courage to move on and let them go was never an easy one. Along with those relationships, I said goodbye to others I didn’t want too. Toxic doesn’t mean that that person is a ‘bad’ person, for me it just means that they are not right for me. It doesn’t serve me or them to have this relationship.

Knowing what I know now, I am okay to move and grow apart, allowing room in my heart for others. Using my positive energy for new friendships or relationships, different experiences and creating memories that are happier rather than those of dread.

Do you have someone who is draining you? Are they taking all your energy away and you find it hard to shake them off?

It just maybe that ‘cutting ties’ is also what they need to become happier… Surround yourself with happiness and that is what you shall receive.

5 Signs You’re In A Toxic Relationship.

1/ Neediness – You are needed for absolutely everything. So much so that unlike most friendships when you are needed so much that you are exhausted. Emotionally and physically drained for constant need and wants.

When your friend has an over need for your attention, support, even financial, physical needs. It is okay to need support from our fiends, however if you become the only support and the only one holding this friend up than this can be seen as a toxic relationship.

2/ Symptoms – Friendships should be those of happiness. Spending time with your friends or relationships such lighten you up and make your feel good or happier. If you are spending time with your friend and coming aware with headaches, cramps, exhaustion, anxiety; than this is not  a healthy relationship for you.

3/ Dread – If you are dreading spending time with a person or the thought of being around that person causes dread, this is not healthy. We want to surround ourselves with people we want to be around and spend time with.

We are not forced to have a relationship with a person. If we don’t want to be with them or if we find ourselves making excuses not to see them, than it maybe a sign to ‘cut-ties’ or spend less time with that person.

4/ They don’t know – most of the time the person who is toxic to us isn’t aware of their own flaws or how they are acting around you. When it comes to opening up to your friend or in the relationship about how ‘needy’ or ‘ungrateful’, whatever it maybe; if you had a true meaningful and open relationship, the person will react with concern, take the feedback and work on any constructive acknowledgement. If this person is over sensitive or reacts defensively. It maybe that this person isn’t ready to change and this will continue to be toxic.

5/ Good days and Bad days – we all have off days, but if a relationship we are in is constantly changing and unpredictable; it can make it hard to know which person will show up. This can create anxiety, depression, uncertainty for a person. This is toxic for your mental and emotional wellbeing. It maybe time to break up this relationship.

 

Do you think you maybe in a toxic relationship? Do you know how to approach the relationship and begin the process of changing it? 

Why not be part of a supportive, nurturing and trustworthy group of Mumma’s just like you. 

Join here: Health Conscious Mumma’s Lounge

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Georgie Hallett - Professional Health Coach with a specialty in Pilates and Ballet Barre, Nutrition and Complimentary Medicine. "Everyone has their own perspective when it comes to health - whatever it may be, we will find yours. Trust the process and allow the transformations to take place." - The Health Conscious Collective

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