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A Blessing In Disguise

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I am incredibly blessed to be raising a rambunctious little girl who is universally adored and cherished by everyone she meets. The school caretaker, the postman, the guy from the local take-away. Everyone who knows her has a good word to say about. Everyone who meets her leaves the exchange with a smile on their face. My daughter is a joy.

I am blessed.

I am also cursed. As this angel of joy, who brings light and happiness to everyone, is my own personal hell-raiser.

She is obstinate. She is insolent. She is fiery. She is opinionated. She is

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cheeky. She is strong-willed. She is loud. She is petulant. She is boisterous. She is a mini-whirlwind.  She is 5yrs old going on 15yrs old, and sometimes she makes me want to scream.

But for every disparaging description I could use, there is an equally positive spin I can put on it.

She is not merely obstinate, she is tenacious, she knows what she likes and what she wants, and she goes for it. She is not purely insolent, she is simply sassy. She may be fiery, but at least she is passionate, and passion should never be tempered. Rather than

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opinionated, she is assertive. She can be cheeky, but she is brave enough to speak her mind. Her strong-will means she is decisive, which considering I have spent a lifetime being indecisive, I should congratulate. Her loudness means I always know where she is, so there is no need to worry about losing her when out in public places. Yes, she is petulant, but she is only 5yrs old, she has decades of maturing to do. Boisterous is just another word for effervescent, and who doesn’t want to be described as bubbly and sparkling?

However you spin it, she

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is still (and always will be) a mini-whirlwind.

My beautiful daughter, my blessing in disguise, teaches me many new things every single daily. Mostly, she teaches me the virtue of patience and how to keep my cool. I have discovered that I am a lot calmer than I gave myself credit for. I have also learnt the right way to apologise in those instances that I do lose my calm. It has happened before, and it will happen again, I am only human, and my daughter is a hell-raiser. But my daughter has also taught me that I don’t need to feel the painful

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MumGuilt when I get it wrong, because it’s not what you do some of the time that counts, it’s what you do most of the time that matters. And most of the time, I get it right.

There is nothing wrong with raising a polite, shy, sensitive young girl. But that’s not the kind of ride that I’ve been signed up for. And even though sometimes I feel like I want to pull my hair out, I wouldn’t trample on my daughter’s individuality, personality and independence for all the wine in the world. Thank god for all the wine in world!

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- 1 Jun 16

I am incredibly blessed to be raising a rambunctious little girl who is universally adored and cherished by everyone she meets. The school caretaker, the postman, the guy from the local take-away. Everyone who knows her has a good word to say about. Everyone who meets her leaves the exchange with a smile on their face. My daughter is a joy.

I am blessed.

I am also cursed. As this angel of joy, who brings light and happiness to everyone, is my own personal hell-raiser.

She is obstinate. She is insolent. She is fiery. She is opinionated. She is cheeky. She is strong-willed. She is loud. She is petulant. She is boisterous. She is a mini-whirlwind.  She is 5yrs old going on 15yrs old, and sometimes she makes me want to scream.

But for every disparaging description I could use, there is an equally positive spin I can put on it.

She is not merely obstinate, she is tenacious, she knows what she likes and what she wants, and she goes for it. She is not purely insolent, she is simply sassy. She may be fiery, but at least she is passionate, and passion should never be tempered. Rather than opinionated, she is assertive. She can be cheeky, but she is brave enough to speak her mind. Her strong-will means she is decisive, which considering I have spent a lifetime being indecisive, I should congratulate. Her loudness means I always know where she is, so there is no need to worry about losing her when out in public places. Yes, she is petulant, but she is only 5yrs old, she has decades of maturing to do. Boisterous is just another word for effervescent, and who doesn’t want to be described as bubbly and sparkling?

However you spin it, she is still (and always will be) a mini-whirlwind.

My beautiful daughter, my blessing in disguise, teaches me many new things every single daily. Mostly, she teaches me the virtue of patience and how to keep my cool. I have discovered that I am a lot calmer than I gave myself credit for. I have also learnt the right way to apologise in those instances that I do lose my calm. It has happened before, and it will happen again, I am only human, and my daughter is a hell-raiser. But my daughter has also taught me that I don’t need to feel the painful MumGuilt when I get it wrong, because it’s not what you do some of the time that counts, it’s what you do most of the time that matters. And most of the time, I get it right.

There is nothing wrong with raising a polite, shy, sensitive young girl. But that’s not the kind of ride that I’ve been signed up for. And even though sometimes I feel like I want to pull my hair out, I wouldn’t trample on my daughter’s individuality, personality and independence for all the wine in the world. Thank god for all the wine in world!

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A very nearly 30yr old, working mother of one HumanChild and two FurBabies. Engaged to be married to a very patient and understanding ManShape. Struggling to maintain a work-life-wine balance, whilst continuing to study for my degree, and living with a complicated mental health.

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