I’m a mum of one amazing little girl. She’s 4 and she has spoiled us since she was born. She never cried, she settled herself, laughed at our silly jokes, behaved in restaurants and planes. I’m not bragging, we know we have it lucky and it’s certainly not a result of our amazing parenting!
So you might see why I am filled with a bit of trepidation 4 weeks before we welcome the little boy kicking up a storm in my tummy to our lives. What if he’s a ’real’
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baby? What if he cries all night? What if we can’t enjoy the same level of freedom our daughter has kindly given us? I guess this can all be summed up in 1 question – what if I can’t cope with a ’real’ baby?
My husband is blessed with the self confidence of a Greek god (but sadly not the body) and assures me his son will be as chilled as him. This isn’t reassuring having seen him assemble flat pack furniture. My husband is also safe in the knowledge he could sleep through a nuclear bomb and unless the baby can wield a sledgehammer he will not be
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waking daddy up easily.
Friends are super helpful and tell me if they’d had their second baby first they would never have had another one.
Of course this isn’t a question you are supposed to say out loud. With all the struggles we have had to get children I would be happy with 2 monster children as long as they were well. But in the night when you can’t sleep or moments when you snap at a your spouse or sweet child because of tiredness, it’s ok to say to ask yourself ’can I cope with a real baby?’
I’m a mum of one amazing little girl. She’s 4 and she has spoiled us since she was born. She never cried, she settled herself, laughed at our silly jokes, behaved in restaurants and planes. I’m not bragging, we know we have it lucky and it’s certainly not a result of our amazing parenting!
So you might see why I am filled with a bit of trepidation 4 weeks before we welcome the little boy kicking up a storm in my tummy to our lives. What if he’s a ‘real’ baby? What if he cries all night? What if we can’t enjoy the same level of freedom our daughter has kindly given us? I guess this can all be summed up in 1 question – what if I can’t cope with a ‘real’ baby?
My husband is blessed with the self confidence of a Greek god (but sadly not the body) and assures me his son will be as chilled as him. This isn’t reassuring having seen him assemble flat pack furniture. My husband is also safe in the knowledge he could sleep through a nuclear bomb and unless the baby can wield a sledgehammer he will not be waking daddy up easily.
Friends are super helpful and tell me if they’d had their second baby first they would never have had another one.
Of course this isn’t a question you are supposed to say out loud. With all the struggles we have had to get children I would be happy with 2 monster children as long as they were well. But in the night when you can’t sleep or moments when you snap at a your spouse or sweet child because of tiredness, it’s ok to say to ask yourself ‘can I cope with a real baby?’
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