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Afro Twins – Twin Hair Bonds Should Never Be Broken

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Afro Twins – Twin Hair Bonds Should Never Be Broken
The @afrotwinslondon have been taught by me their mixed heritage mother (White English Mother & Jamaican Father) to be proud of their different textured Afro hair.
Hair is a key defining factor of those of mixed heritage identity how they are often identified as black, or not black enough in some cases. That’s the thing with being mixed heritage you are always in the middle, too white, or too black or not black enough. It’s all a very complex tightrope walk, that nobody can really teach you,
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you have to learn, educate yourself, fall, address and rebalance as you go.
Black Afro Hair politics is tricky and complex. The Afro Twins have very different hair textures both quite light blonde / red tinges in colour, Benjamin’s coil like springs “good hair”(he literally took my hair) Eva Rose’s more course,  a tighter Afro (like her father, who’s Mother is mixed heritage White English & Nigerian Ghanaian & his Father Monserrat). When they were little, toddlers strangers in the street would come up to Ben and touch his hair and
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comment on how beautiful it was, never Eva Rose’s. I set about educating my twins from toddlers teaching them their Afro history, and empowering them both to realise how important their hair is to their identity, ancestry and something to be proud of. It has worked they both love their hair. They both want to grow their hair.
Ben is adamant he does not want to cut his hair, despite often being mistaken for a girl, that no one in his school has hair like him, and the pain he endures from the endless brushing and hair care regime having long curly hair
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entails, he likes his hair long. He is proud of his mane, it is part of him, and his identity. He is  instantly recognisable, his hair is a strong part of his brand.
So imagine in two years time when they / we as parents choose which school would like to go to, we will be faced with the reality that in many good schools,  boys hair has to be cut short, to adhere to the school rules and policies. To get the best education possible, the length and style of their hair should not be a discussion, talking point or an obstacle to school entry. THE LAW NEEDS
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TO CHANGE. No school in Great Britain in fact the world should be legally able to dictate the length or style of a child’s hair. That is discrimination and should be illegal.
#AfroTwinsLondon will both have to apply for secondary school & if these bad hair policies are in place at the best schools in our area (often church schools – Didn’t Jesus have long hair?! ) #EvathedivaRose will be able to keep her hair & #brilliantben will have to cut his mane?! How does that make any sense, or can it be a legal enforcement in 2020, due to draconian
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Victorian school policies.
Black, Mixed, Non Binary ALL children and #boyswithLonghair matter. Their identity, their hair is not up for debate, or being taken away from them to appease a school policy.
The law needs to change, this is discrimination and inequality.
How am I going to tell my twin Boy #brilliantben he has to cut his hair to go to senior school but his twin sister #evathedivarose doesn’t have to?! How is that fair or right?
These outdated bad hair policies are not reflective of our diverse population in Britain today. Mixed
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ethnicity the fastest-growing ethnic group of the last two decades, this has to be reflected in the laws to protect our children.
If boys want to have long hair for whatever reason this should not affect their education. PLEASE SIGN & SHARE THE PETITION for the sake of #equality and #humanrights
https://www.change.org/p/gavin-williamson
My twins Afro hair bond should not be broken. As Mother I should not have to force my child because he is a boy to change a fundamental part of his identity. This is wrong. I would love to hear your thoughts and
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experiences please contact me @afrotwinslondon @thesullivanslondon jadesullivan888@gmail.com
Photography © @creativesoulphoto
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- 12 Feb 20

Afro Twins – Twin Hair Bonds Should Never Be Broken

The @afrotwinslondon have been taught by me their mixed heritage mother (White English Mother & Jamaican Father) to be proud of their different textured Afro hair.

Hair is a key defining factor of those of mixed heritage identity how they are often identified as black, or not black enough in some cases. That’s the thing with being mixed heritage you are always in the middle, too white, or too black or not black enough. It’s all a very complex tightrope walk, that nobody can really teach you, you have to learn, educate yourself, fall, address and rebalance as you go.

Black Afro Hair politics is tricky and complex. The Afro Twins have very different hair textures both quite light blonde / red tinges in colour, Benjamin’s coil like springs “good hair”(he literally took my hair) Eva Rose’s more course,  a tighter Afro (like her father, who’s Mother is mixed heritage White English & Nigerian Ghanaian & his Father Monserrat). When they were little, toddlers strangers in the street would come up to Ben and touch his hair and comment on how beautiful it was, never Eva Rose’s. I set about educating my twins from toddlers teaching them their Afro history, and empowering them both to realise how important their hair is to their identity, ancestry and something to be proud of. It has worked they both love their hair. They both want to grow their hair.

Ben is adamant he does not want to cut his hair, despite often being mistaken for a girl, that no one in his school has hair like him, and the pain he endures from the endless brushing and hair care regime having long curly hair entails, he likes his hair long. He is proud of his mane, it is part of him, and his identity. He is  instantly recognisable, his hair is a strong part of his brand.

So imagine in two years time when they / we as parents choose which school would like to go to, we will be faced with the reality that in many good schools,  boys hair has to be cut short, to adhere to the school rules and policies. To get the best education possible, the length and style of their hair should not be a discussion, talking point or an obstacle to school entry. THE LAW NEEDS TO CHANGE. No school in Great Britain in fact the world should be legally able to dictate the length or style of a child’s hair. That is discrimination and should be illegal.

#AfroTwinsLondon will both have to apply for secondary school & if these bad hair policies are in place at the best schools in our area (often church schools – Didn’t Jesus have long hair?! ) #EvathedivaRose will be able to keep her hair & #brilliantben will have to cut his mane?! How does that make any sense, or can it be a legal enforcement in 2020, due to draconian Victorian school policies.

Black, Mixed, Non Binary ALL children and #boyswithLonghair matter. Their identity, their hair is not up for debate, or being taken away from them to appease a school policy.

The law needs to change, this is discrimination and inequality.

How am I going to tell my twin Boy #brilliantben he has to cut his hair to go to senior school but his twin sister #evathedivarose doesn’t have to?! How is that fair or right?

These outdated bad hair policies are not reflective of our diverse population in Britain today. Mixed ethnicity the fastest-growing ethnic group of the last two decades, this has to be reflected in the laws to protect our children.

If boys want to have long hair for whatever reason this should not affect their education. PLEASE SIGN & SHARE THE PETITION for the sake of #equality and #humanrights

https://www.change.org/p/gavin-williamson

My twins Afro hair bond should not be broken. As Mother I should not have to force my child because he is a boy to change a fundamental part of his identity. This is wrong. I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences please contact me @afrotwinslondon @thesullivanslondon jadesullivan888@gmail.com

Photography © @creativesoulphoto

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