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Asking for a friend…….

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I have a love/love relationship with social media & this world of oversharing that we live in. Coming from a marketing background I have embraced social media as I have seen how great it can be for small businesses to help them grow – I’ve even made a business out of it for myself.

As a mum of two I have frequently relied on the support network that social media provides  -whether it’s keeping up to date with the lives of my family & friends who don’t live nearby or sharing my frustrations about the invention of sock boots when there is no

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one else around to vent to.

I’ve found comfort & community in the little squares & have connected with like-minded folk that I would never have been able to meet otherwise.

Yet when it comes to the personal stuff I still struggle to share……

I read open and honest posts about relationship troubles or personal battles & I feel connected to those people. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve typed a response to a really heartfelt blog and then stopped, rewritten & then just deleted it because I’m scared that my response will

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reveal too much about how I am feeling too. How I might be judged by those I know for revealing all so publicly or even worse …. that the people involved in my struggles will read it and know I’m talking about them.

So really……… how do you ask for a friend?

How do you ask the advice of someone who has revealed they’ve been to couple counseling without telling the rest of the world that you want some couple counseling too?  What do you do when your partner is so private that any hint of sharing your troubles with the rest of the world

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will make things even worse but you just want to reach out to someone who doesn’t know you as well and isn’t in your daily circle of life – so the distance makes the connection feel safe & somehow less involved?

How do you blog about something heartbreaking without it becoming public knowledge when you know that writing about it could make you feel better – and hopefully make someone else who is going through the same thing feel better too?

Or do you just ask for a friend?………

 

 

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- 26 Oct 19

I have a love/love relationship with social media & this world of oversharing that we live in. Coming from a marketing background I have embraced social media as I have seen how great it can be for small businesses to help them grow – I’ve even made a business out of it for myself.

As a mum of two I have frequently relied on the support network that social media provides  -whether it’s keeping up to date with the lives of my family & friends who don’t live nearby or sharing my frustrations about the invention of sock boots when there is no one else around to vent to.

I’ve found comfort & community in the little squares & have connected with like-minded folk that I would never have been able to meet otherwise.

Yet when it comes to the personal stuff I still struggle to share……

I read open and honest posts about relationship troubles or personal battles & I feel connected to those people. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve typed a response to a really heartfelt blog and then stopped, rewritten & then just deleted it because I’m scared that my response will reveal too much about how I am feeling too. How I might be judged by those I know for revealing all so publicly or even worse …. that the people involved in my struggles will read it and know I’m talking about them.

So really……… how do you ask for a friend?

How do you ask the advice of someone who has revealed they’ve been to couple counseling without telling the rest of the world that you want some couple counseling too?  What do you do when your partner is so private that any hint of sharing your troubles with the rest of the world will make things even worse but you just want to reach out to someone who doesn’t know you as well and isn’t in your daily circle of life – so the distance makes the connection feel safe & somehow less involved?

How do you blog about something heartbreaking without it becoming public knowledge when you know that writing about it could make you feel better – and hopefully make someone else who is going through the same thing feel better too?

Or do you just ask for a friend?………

 

 

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