Being a Girl in a Boys World

michelle buckingham - 28 Jul 16

On the day I found out the sex of my daughter I was so upset! Partly because I enjoyed my eldest as a baby (boys was all I knew), I feared PINK and my NHS 20 week Scan experience was god damn horrible!

In the days of my pregnancy with my eldest you only ever got one scan at the beginning and were never offered the right to find out the sex. So when I did fall pregnant seven years later the world of pregnancy healthcare had changed so much and I was excited to know that I could find out the sex of my baby enabling me to feed my OCD with proper baby preparation!

The scan had been booked for my husband’s birthday (by them not us) and as it was his first biological child so we were excited to share this experience together on his day of the year. However the experience we were led to believe by friends as ‘wonderful’ turned out to be nothing like this and we felt we were just another number in a long list of numbers.

So after an awful NHS scan experience we decided to pay and have another scan to confirm what the abrupt Nurse had said and also to gain some sort of ‘give a crap about us’ which is not what we got from our 20 week scan.

And it was here that my fear of having a girl changed…the experience was magical, warming and put all that PINK fear to an end as I saw her little face in 3D on the screen. It also helped that not long after finding this out the Baby K range started with alternative ‘girl’ coloured clothes as I still knew that there was no way I would ever put her in baby pink.

But it is without surprise that our ‘little princess’ would always be more ‘warrior’ than pretty in pink!

Her toys were always more classic boy toys like superheroes, dinosaurs and aliens, which she loved and played with all the time with her brother. But that’s what we played with in our house and for such a long time that the classic ‘girl’ isle in the shops was often disregarded by us, not because we wanted her to be a boy but because we knew no different and she enjoyed what we already played with in our house.

Fast forward a few years and our daughter is a lovely mix of tomboy and girly girl. Some days she will play with dolls, doing their hair just right, dressing them up, dressing up herself and other days she is drawing Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and playing with her Power Rangers (and funnily enough the Pink Ranger is her favorite!). She has the classic girly traits of worrying about her hair, what she is wearing and make-up, yet is always ready to pretend to be heroes with the boys.

So you could say I am glad that I am afraid of PINK otherwise I wouldn’t have the Harley I have and I think she likes growing up in the boy world home she lives in!

MB

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michelle buckingham

Mother to three wonderful children that range from 13 years old to 20 months! Wannabe writer, blogger and crafter (when I get time!) Part time sales executive for a local news paper (that is not as glamorous as it sounds!) Hard working mum that spends most of her home time being peace keeper! Slightly career driven woman that also somehow manages to fit in working out with a Kettlebell five times a week!

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