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Bringing Flexi Back
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Do excuse me, I was just pissing myself laughing for a
Herein lies the Irony of it all. It’s taken me approximately 7 weeks to finally sit down and pull together this blog post – a pleasurable pastime, of which I presumed (wrongly) with my new-fangled vocation, I would be doing a lot more of. I anticipated there would now be more time in which to pen my posts – focus on channelling my ever-present anxiety by bashing out some therapeutic, and with any luck – engaging prose.
Well kids, it would seem I was a little (snigger) in the dark as to how this would work. So, let’s start with
It would begin with a milder morning – for a start, I wouldn’t have to get myself up, showered, dressed, both girls sat down to breakfast and out of the house by 7.30, so our mornings should now offer a less panicked start to the day. (snigger)
Therein would follow a jaunty 25-minute walk to pre-school alongside the girls, sporting my new sweaty betty active wear.
I would wave off Elsie into pre-school – her perfectly preened bunches
With a little more time on my hands, I am able to engage in casual tête-à-têtes alongside the pre-school mums, with whom I usually only got to give a brief royal wave to of a Friday morning, ‘on my day off’. (snigger)
For two days of the week, I am lucky enough to have Marnie in nursery from 9am until 4pm, meaning that with Elsie in pre-school 8.30-3.30 I get a whole SIX hours to focus on work, with no interruptions. (snigger)
On the three out of
After a successful pick up, light banter about Elsie’s day and some quality time together, the girls sit down for their freshly prepared and homemade spag bol (which I whipped up earlier that day no less) – they devour the lot. (snigger)
Without having to endure another restless and
Jamie arrives home to share the bath and bed time load, and with both girls fast asleep, I reheat the spag bol (prepared earlier that day, remember?) and we sit down to enjoy dinner, some mind-numbing TV and a glass of wine before calling it a night.
Now, my friends, I’m gonna slap you – square on in the chops, with the REALITY:
Manic. Agitated. Restless. Anxious. Twitchy (oooh
Firstly, there is shouting. So much shouting. This isn’t to say there wasn’t shouting before – there was. However, the shouting levels have somewhat increased in the last few months – mainly they come from me but also, the girls. We all just shout.
Elsie shouts (or usually sobs) that her milk is too warm. I try to select my battles, I really do, so I pop in a dash of
By the time we have left the house I would approximate that I have spent
In between further roaring, I speed shower, get dressed and trowel a questionable amount of makeup onto my face. I then go forth and cajole the girls into their clothes, which quite frankly, and understandably they remonstrate against because they would rather reside on the sofa watching Annie for the 80th time that week. Now listen up, I have DAYS’ worth of love island and Real Housewives of Cheshire on the planner
I hoof Elsie’s hair into a promised ‘Elsa plait Mummy’ – an experience which she screams throughout as if I am plucking individual hairs from her scalp with tweezers, rather than brushing it with a ‘tangleteaser’. We then spend ten precious minutes rearranging Elsie’s socks so the seams sit perfectly across her toes – she cannot and WILL not put a shoe on until each sock is impeccable. More shouting.
As we tackle one another to leave the house – I perform the
We’re out the house. Elsie scoots for
I would approximate that one, out of five journeys to pre-school there will be tears. A Russian roulette of Hayward girls weeping. Which one of us is going to weep next – your guess is as good as mine, but
We arrive at the preschool gates clammy and angry whilst I inconspicuously hoof up the crotch of my newly purchased Primark activewear leggings (Elsie likes to call them my ‘go faster trousers’ – seemingly they never fucking work) We are late. We are nearly always late, or at least – we are never early.
I attempt to make half arsed conversations with the other mums but never quite managing to fully engage in a good old chin wag.
On the three out of five days that Marnie and I get to hang out, it goes a little like
On non-nursery days, nap time befits the holy grail of
2.50 Marnie wakes. She’s barely opened her eyes as I hoof her back into the buggy (altogether now – SNACK) and we speed walk back down to preschool.
A wondrous greeting from Elsie awaits as she barks “Where’s my snack” and we engage in deep conversation about her day. “How was your day baby?” “Good” Right.
An array of culinary delights are available in our household these days – on the tea time menu, you can find – beans on toast, fish fingers, sausages, pesto pasta, scrambled egg and a side portion, always a side portion of cucumber.
More often than not, Jamie arrives home in time for some pre-bed excitement to the soundtrack of me screaming “FOR GODSAKE JAMIE, STOP WINDING THEM UP – IT IS
On the evenings the both of us are in, we consume one of our standard mid-week dinners on our laps, before we both bang out the laptops and start working again. Occasionally we break away from our screens to argue about who does more around the house (me) and why I have stuffed too much rubbish in the bin again. I know. We are outrageous.
So there you have it. A tale of vision (hallucination?) verses reality. I’ve said it once and I’ll
But, alas my friends – you simply can’t do, or more importantly have it all (I’m leisurely learning on my merry way) and alongside my fresh calling as a ‘Freelance content creator’ (I don’t make this shit up) comes a renewed, but hugely less controlled routine – something that doesn’t rest easily with me. I crave structure, organisation and order – all of which I practised daily in my old role.
WOAH WOAH WOAH, HOLD ON A FUCKING SECOND LOVE. You wanted this right? The change, the freedom, the
So, despite my ramblings, of the downy, e-number coated days I imagined to
It has been the right decision, and the greatest choice for us as a family, but I am also very much a novice. We are in the throes of working out what does actually work for us, but I feel incredibly lucky that as I navigate the hurdles of freelance life, alongside the relentlessness of motherhood – I now have so many more choices available to me.
Whether that’s dropping (despite the shouting) Elsie at