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Diary of the return from maternity leave
Personally, I fell straight down the middle: I was looking forward to having that professional part of my life back, but unsure how I was going to cope with switching over from 24/7 mum mode.
Here’s how my first week back in the working world went. (Spoiler: there’s lots of
Tuesday, day 1: Back to the office
I am as prepared as I can be: I have planned my outfits for the next three days, the bottles are all washed and sterilised, and Elliot’s dad is dropping him at nursery so I don’t have to rush/risk turning up at work with mascara running down my face. Still, despite my best efforts, there are tears (mine, not Elliot’s) before 8am; as I wave them on their way, my heart drops right to my knees. Suddenly, it all feels much too soon.
But there’s
My morning is a chorus of
I text my husband to ask if the drop off went OK (he
And just like that, it’s my lunch hour. There are no toys to tidy up and no washing up to be done. I head to the local pizza place and then for coffee with a few workmates and make chit chat. I am a functioning grown up again!
When we return to the office, I get so busy sifting through
As soon as it hits 5pm, I’m out the door, on the tram, and then literally run home from the stop. I fling open the door, panting, to be greeted by the sight of Elliot sitting in his high chair, grinning widely. He is a bit tired (all the excitement) but totally fine. Husband gives me a full debrief on everything the nursery staff told him at the pickup: lots of eating, some crying, two wet
As soon as he’s finished his dinner, I gather my baby up and hold him tight. Having spent the day in a non-home environment, he smells different, which I hate. His bedtime comes way too soon.
Wednesday, day 2: Reality hits
I’m taking full advantage of my work’s flexi-time policy by arriving earlier than most. This morning, I notice that the office feels strangely quiet despite there being a handful of people in already, and I realise that this is because there’s no whirling washing machine, various
Having got the niceties of yesterday over with, people are now asking the obvious questions, like “Do you miss him?” and “Is it weird being back?”. Although they’re only trying to take an interest, each of these well-meaning queries reminds me that yes, I REALLY miss him, and yes, all this is SO weird, and that feels like a tiny, but very real, punch to my already fragile sense of self.
I go out alone at lunchtime (pram-less, bizarre feeling) and find myself thinking
I see a baby in the same t-shirt Elliot’s wearing today. I see a woman feeding her newborn. I see a lost dummy and hope there isn’t a child crying for it somewhere. This is all a bit much. The novelty of my first day back has worn off and the reality of being away from my baby three days a week for the foreseeable future is sinking in.
When the work day
But I’m not. Do I really have to do this all again tomorrow!?
Thursday, day 3: The home stretch
Thursday. Yes!
Elliot is being looked after by his grandma at our house today, so I feel much more confident that he’ll be content. Unfortunately, though, it did mean that it was my turn to cope with his goodbye tears. As I close the door to the sound of his wailing, all my instincts tell me I should stay. This is hard.
Having spent the first two days getting up to speed/re-engaging my brain with the
As I wave goodbye with a cheery “See you next week”,