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Finding the ‘U’ in Mum
We have chipped away at the glass ceiling and slowly dug our manicured nails through the cracks. We can have babies without men, years past our prime, with a surgically enhanced face that never takes us past 29. We can shag whoever we fancy and broadcast it to the world. We can work where we want, dress as we please and do as much or as little as we feel like. We are completely free and unrestrained and we can have it all, right now, easy peasy. Is it that simple
Finding the ’u’ in Mum isn’t easy. It’s so tough in fact that a lot of women give up, and then get to their final years blaming the kids for getting in the way of their dreams. Well wake up! If you want to find the magic balance between the ‘I have tos’ and the ‘I want tos’ in your life; if you want to be a mum who goes back to school, writes a novel, starts her own business or takes up a new hobby, then this is what to expect. Get ready!
1. YOU WILL BE CALLED SELFISH
When did
2. SLEEP CEASES TO EXIST
Your children will need you and they are your number one priority, and when they are ill or hurt, or scared, only mummy will do and that’s your full time job. They won’t care if you got to bed late or have a migraine, if they want to watch Postman
3. SOMETHING HAS TO GIVE
To be a mum with ambitions you have to sacrifice something – but don’t let it be your relationship! It’s all too easy to stick your partner on the back burner and think they can look after themselves, but it builds resentment and distance and you need them now more than ever. Instead give up TV, chatting on the phone, Facebook, reading magazines or playing Candycrush. There, you have a whole evening now.
4. GET A ROUTINE & GET ORGANISED
If you know what time your
5. GET HELP
Seeking support doesn’t make you weak, it makes you clever. Not even She-Ra can run a home, children, a job, study, look presentable, feed her family and have time to sleep and breath all in one day. Get a cleaner, help from family, a babysitter…whatever buys you a few hours. No one judges you when you say ‘I can’t
6. LET IT GO
You won’t be able to get everything done. There, I said it. There will be days your child goes to school with a creased uniform, or you have to go to a meeting with your hair scrunched up in a Peppa Pig bobble pony tail, or you find yourself bringing in the washing at midnight because it’s been outside for three days and the neighbours think you have died. It doesn’t matter. Like Disney’s Elsa says – ‘Let it go, let it go, that perfect girl is gone!’
7. SET
You need to decide what gets done and when, so break up your precious 24hrs into chunks. When it’s time for the kids put down that phone, and if it’s work time make sure people know not to disturb you.
8. EXPECT TO FEEL GUILTY, FOREVER
Every mum feels guilty. From the moment you see that little blue line appear on the pregnancy test you feel guilty, you feel like you are doing it all wrong and that everyone is better at it than you. And it only gets worse the more things you try to fit in around the children. You will feel guilty about
9. DREAM BIG BUT START SMALL
Be realistic. The younger your children are, the more they need you and the less you can manage. Your deadlines are your deadlines, you can move them.
10. BE KIND TO YOU
Don’t kill yourself. It’s ok to stop, have a day off, do nothing, treat yourself to something nice. It’s ok. I give you permission to sit down, cuddle the kids and ignore your To Do list. Live in the moment for a little bit, it’s nice there.
There
A mother with ambition has a bright future ahead of her.
She will live longer, because she will have exercised her brain and her craving for something more. Her marriage will be stronger, because she will have exciting
And once those children she cherished and juggled, fought for and fought with, carried and cuddled through her busy life have gone to live their own life, she won’t get empty nest syndrome. Why? Because she lined her nest with more than just fluffy chicks. In fact she taught her babies how to fly by showing them how she
So go on then, off you go, life is waiting for you…