Finding your G Spot

Fckitmum - 22 Feb 16

Lay back and think of England….

OK now get your mind out of the gutter. I am not talking about THAT G stop. For goodness sake mine seems to have disappeared around the year 2000 never to be found again. I am talking about the new G spot which you procreate – GUILT.

Guilt is a relatively new phenomenon for me. Well, that is a lie – I have felt guilty many times in my life before, for instance stealing my little sisters clothes without asking and then ruining them or waking up the morning after the night before and feeling guilty that you swiped all your mates chicken nuggets in McDonald’s whilst drunk when she nipped loo and then blamed it on someone else.

But this parent guilt takes it all to another level. There is absolutely no sense to it AT ALL. It is irrational and contradictory and turns us all slightly into nutters. Even the most level headed and sensible amongst your #parentsquad will fall prey to this state of mind. For example in the last week talking to other parents I have heard the following:

• I feel guilty as my child is in nursery
• I feel guilty as my child isn’t in nursery
• I feel guilty that my daughter has to have some of her brother’s hand me downs
• I feel guilty that I let my daughter wear girly clothes and not enough gender neutral stuff
• I feel guilty that I don’t do enough with my kids
• I feel guilty that I do too much with my kids dragging them around
• I feel guilty…
• I feel guilty…
• and so on and so on.

Well I’m taking a stand against this nonsense. So STOP IT. STOP WITH THE FELLING BLOODY GUILTY.

Why do we do this to ourselves? Who knows, but what I do know is that  it doesn’t make us any better as a human or a more kick ass parent, feeling guilty about stuff that in the big picture doesn’t really matter at all.  So don’t feel guilty about using Ella’s pouches instead of organic homemade fair because you are having a cba moment. Don’t feel guilty about letting your child watching endless episodes of Sarah and Duck while you recover from a big night ‘supervising’ on the sofa. And don’t feel guilty that you are not doing enough, doing to much or doing nothing at all as a parent. As long as you are doing your best then that is bloody well good enough.

Come on parents, join me and reclaim guilt for moments that really matter – like watching Jeremy Kyle. On repeat.

Fckitmum

Gin expert I Little person keeper alive-er I Master of #fckitparenting I Occasional blogger

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