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For that child “In a shocking state”
This is it:
Letter to parents from St Michael’s Academy
A very big thank you to all of you who send your children in to school looking clean and tidy and ready for their school week.
These are very important life habits to get into which will serve them well in adult life.
Unfortunately I have noticed an increasing number of children who are coming to school in a pretty shocking
They are dirty, unkempt and not in appropriate school uniform, if in any uniform at all.
Today, being that it is a Monday, quite a few have returned to school in dirty clothes and obviously haven’t had a shower in readiness for Monday morning.
There are also an increasing number who are not making any attempt to wear black school shoes, in line with school policy.
There are also a lot of children who are getting themselves up in the morning and in to school as their parents are still in bed.
In a country where there is
I totally appreciate that life is hard for some of you but please make sure that your children are clean and ready for school and that includes the correct clothes.
Starting next week I intend phoning home to contact parents of children not in uniform including black shoes, and you will be asked to take them home.
Yup. That is it. That is what went home to
I am not going to get all ranty on here about my full opinion; to write the detailed, well thought out response this warrants would take hours that I do not have (kids currently comparing snot smears on the sofa). I will however quote a couple of my responses that I posted on Facebook, I posted these to counter a few people who
People who had stated that:
”There is no excuse for going out unwashed”
I replied:
I beg to differ. Having worked with families where bathroom’s are so disgusting (for many reasons) that is an ideal excuse for remaining unwashed. A far healthier option if you knew what lay in their bathrooms. It is easy to make such assumptions based on your own lifestyle, however home lives can be very dark for some of these children – and they are now having their noses rubbed in it; by the head of an institution that is
To somebody’s statement of:
No excuse! Even lack of money is not an excuse”
I suggested:
What about: lack of parenting skills, lack of clean bathrooms (I’ve seen the filthy ones), the lack of support when parents for whatever reason aren’t able to parent effectively, broken homes with poor channels of communication, violent homes where cleaning yourself or your children is way down on
And last one (and this is me NOT being ranty!) somebody added:
It’s not hard to wash kids uniforms and shower your child/ren.
I dared say this:
It may be hard if you are a recovering alcoholic, drug addict or victim of domestic violence. It may be hard if nobody has ever modelled ’good parenting’ to you so you are just doing the same as your own parents
Further isolating children just seems unfair.
On reading the letter, and the responses, my thoughts shot straight to the children. The children who are openly discussed within the letter, who are put into the spotlight for the whole school to focus on. So, instead of a detailed response delving into how deprivation comes in forms other than financial, and giving examples of the complex issues I have seen for myself. Instead, as we all should I thought of the children, and I wrote them a letter:
Dear
I’m so sorry that nobody got up with you this morning, that must have been hard, and lonely. Even as an adult it can be tricky getting up for work sometimes, especially if other people are sleeping. Well done you for getting up and finding some clothes, they aren’t super clean but not to worry, you tried, and you made it in. By the way, have you eaten anything today?
Please don’t worry about your clothes, it’s not your fault, nobody actually blames you – and if they do, they are just being mean. They clearly have no
You didn’t manage to wash today or last night?
I am sorry that another adult has openly called your parents or carers lazy, that must be embarrassing and hurtful for you, you probably love them a lot. There are lots and lots of reasons why sometimes adults don’t take care of children like they should – there are other adults that you can talk
Sometimes people do things when they are frustrated, maybe you do and then an adult talks to you about how to control yourself? We all do that, we all get frustrated and do things we shouldn’t. I think that letter home may be that, it may that your headmistress was angry and frustrated because she cares about you all – but didn’t stop
As for being a bit untidy, well, who cares?! You are here, I hope by now that school have fed you – so if your hair is messy or your shoes are the wrong colour then don’t worry, you are still a child, you don’t have much control over this. Our main concern is that you are safe, healthy and happy – the rest we can
I hope this letter has made you feel a little better,
Take care,
B. A. Write
I just figure this; If you were a kid and your bathroom was freezing, filthy and smelly – would you prioritise having a wash, or just getting the hell out of there and getting to school? The parents may be lazy, they may have genuine excuses and circumstance, but this letter openly draws attention to, and victimises their children. If the parents are letting them leave home like that, it is unlikely they will care about a letter, let alone
However, you can be pretty sure that the smelly, dirty child wearing her brothers trainers is going to feel even worse about herself. Shame on this head for using such a method, when there are many other ways this could be addressed. It is very worrying when the head of an educational establishment fails to be creative, empathetic, sensitive or able to think outside of the box. I am certainly not a defender of the idle, I do see the value and importance of making sure parents know what is expected of
Maybe I shouldn’t be giving my opinion on this, maybe, as a blogger, I am sounding the death knoll for my traffic. I hope not. I also hope that whatever your opinion on this then you feel free to share it, we are all entitled to think differently – it is how we discuss our differences that matter. I personally love a good debate, it makes life interesting and encourages us all to think about, and see things from other angles – and that can
Right, rant over. I can’t let the dog lick any more snot off of the sofa.
I’ll crawl back under my rock now.