#girlpower

Kimberley Hughes - 13 Mar 16

I’m not a single mum. I’m very lucky to to have a loving Boyfriend and father to my child who helps out as much as he can around a full time job. But my mum was, for the best part of mine and my brothers childhood, a single mum. Although we still saw my dad a lot it was just us three at home and only since having my own child have I realised what a hard job she must have had.

It’s all come to light recently after my father fell ill and I had to spend some time away from home to visit him. I took my baby girl with me and only then did I realise how much I actually relied on my boyfriend and the few hours of help I got each evening.

Upon my return and after a morning of looking after our daughter whilst I finally had some time to wash my hair, he said this to me; (and I think it may be the best thing I’ve heard since becoming a mum) “I honestly don’t know how you do this all day, it’s hard work”

FINALLY.

He understood, and actually, now, so did I.

It is hard work. Us mums are selfless human beings and we just get on with it. Without praise, thanks or a pat on the back. But it could be harder for me. I feel lucky to have the support network around me that I do. My mum lives close, and my boyfriends family are only a call away. As far as I remember my mum didn’t have that. I don’t remember being that close to her family. She just cracked on with it, a working mum with two kids. Did anyone ever give her a well done and a pat on the back? Probably not, but would it have made a difference to everything she did for us? No. This is what is amazing about mums, you just do what you got to do, completely selflessly. Without thanks, a lot of the time.

So to all the mums, single or not – how do you do it all day?! It’s hard work. And you are doing a great job. Girl power. We got this 👊🏼

KH

Kimberley Hughes

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