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I often wonder how all the women I know cope with the sheer amount of stuff they do. How they manage to keep all of the plates spinning without them crashing to the floor. I wonder where they get the energy to run marathons, the patience to do crafts with their kids, the drive to pursue their careers and work 80 hour weeks, the mental capacity to store hundreds of social engagements in their mental calendars, where they find the willpower to not eat carbs?!
We’re surrounded by images, articles, adverts, campaigns urging us to live our #bestlives in
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a #blessed fashion. We are bombarded with advice on how to climb that ladder, smash that HIIT work out, nurture those children, follow those fashions or find our own style whatever that may be. We’re ambushed with self help and practical advice how to Hinch the house or Marie Kondo it or, preferably both, on a daily basis, and all before we’ve even brushed our teeth.
It’s madness, so how do you ‘have it all’ and what exactly does it even mean? The game has changed and it’s no longer enough to have a career, a family or
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both.
We’re living in an aspirational society where nothing short of exceptional is enough and can’t help but feel we’re being sold a lie.
I’d like to know exactly what my #best-life actually is, the idea that’s presented to me through Facebook and Instagram is very different to what I know would actually make me happy. You can keep your fancy yoga retreats thank you. I’d settle for a night in front of the tv in comfy pjs binge watching Netflix, binge eating chocolate and possibly binge drinking wine depending on the kind of week
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I’ve had – but #binge doesn’t feel very aspirational.
I don’t think it is possible to have it all, and if you do happen to have all of it, whatever that may be, the chances are you are feeling more stressed than blessed.
I don’t have time to have it all, and in all honestly I’d like a little less. I aspire not to be perfect but to be a bit more lazy, a bit less reliable, a bit more selfish, a bit less organised. If this is having it all, what I really want to know now is how do I hand some of it back?
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Lou - 13 Feb 19
I often wonder how all the women I know cope with the sheer amount of stuff they do. How they manage to keep all of the plates spinning without them crashing to the floor. I wonder where they get the energy to run marathons, the patience to do crafts with their kids, the drive to pursue their careers and work 80 hour weeks, the mental capacity to store hundreds of social engagements in their mental calendars, where they find the willpower to not eat carbs?!
We’re surrounded by images, articles, adverts, campaigns urging us to live our #bestlives in a #blessed fashion. We are bombarded with advice on how to climb that ladder, smash that HIIT work out, nurture those children, follow those fashions or find our own style whatever that may be. We’re ambushed with self help and practical advice how to Hinch the house or Marie Kondo it or, preferably both, on a daily basis, and all before we’ve even brushed our teeth.
It’s madness, so how do you ‘have it all’ and what exactly does it even mean? The game has changed and it’s no longer enough to have a career, a family or both.
We’re living in an aspirational society where nothing short of exceptional is enough and can’t help but feel we’re being sold a lie.
I’d like to know exactly what my #best-life actually is, the idea that’s presented to me through Facebook and Instagram is very different to what I know would actually make me happy. You can keep your fancy yoga retreats thank you. I’d settle for a night in front of the tv in comfy pjs binge watching Netflix, binge eating chocolate and possibly binge drinking wine depending on the kind of week I’ve had – but #binge doesn’t feel very aspirational.
I don’t think it is possible to have it all, and if you do happen to have all of it, whatever that may be, the chances are you are feeling more stressed than blessed.
I don’t have time to have it all, and in all honestly I’d like a little less. I aspire not to be perfect but to be a bit more lazy, a bit less reliable, a bit more selfish, a bit less organised. If this is having it all, what I really want to know now is how do I hand some of it back?
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