I AM NOT AN EXPERT BUT….

MAMA SNOWBEAR - 11 Dec 17

I am not an expert, well at least not in the field of writing or motherhood but I could give it a good bash at the art game ha-ha. I am not a celebrity mum. I am not a writer. I am a relatively normal mother bear that has had two beautiful, laid back, clever and well behaved children (well most of the time). I often think of the time before I had children, even being a child myself, those days that you only had to worry about yourself, when getting up for work it was so horrendously difficult, NOT.
I mean come on how easy did we have it before children really, I cannot even have a poo in peace these days. OH the life of Still living with your parents, no rent or mortgage to worry about, and no drama if you didn’t have a job, or finding it impossible to decide where to spend your next summer holiday and how many nights out you could handle on the trot. Wow wouldn’t we all love a few weeks back there again.

I am actually not quite sure I would, I get bored after 3 hours of childfree bliss, I miss the noise and the pitter-patter of feet, life is pretty dull without my crazy tribe and I genuinely worry what on earth I’m going to do once they leave the nest. No wonder mid-life crisis’s happen but at least I will have my best friend beside me going through the same motions as I.

Giving advice to people is not something I take lightly and yet I am constantly reminded of my mistakes during my day to day, advising my children that their choices as youngsters and again as teenagers and young adults will impact them for the rest of their life’s it’s a very strange concept for them to grasp.

I strongly believe that how you act towards you’re children can set a fine example to them and how they see you treat others, the environment, the community and the world will impact directly on your child’s life. It is always about setting a good example and making sure you protect them from harm or anyone who could lead them astray, but it is also good to let them see you’re flaws because perfection does not exist, nobody in this world is perfect. That I am sure of. I am dreading the time when my minions come home with new friends, I know I will judge them on what they tell me, but how can you judge a 8 year old? You don’t, or do you judge the parent? It’s an odd concept but we all do it I’m sure.

Parenting is a tough cookie to crack; do you want to be one of those mums who other mums turn their noses up at? Is it so important to set a good example and live your life how you want your child to live in the future? I’d say yes but not to please others just you and you’re children and allow them to fail too, just as we all do. Because from failures we learn the most about ourselves and we learn how incredibly strong and resilient we can be.

I am no Katie Hopkins in regard to my views on parenthood ,thank god her moral is questionable, I am far from her tree. b I do however think its time that parents took responsibility for their children’s bad behaviour and lack of aspirations, as I have seen both sides, and I know which side I’ll be on. Make your children love their life, no matter of your situation. Make them understand right from wrong and that no matter what they do you will love them forever, flaws included. Mummy and daddy are not perfect either and this is vital for them to learn even if the lovely bundles do idealise you like no one else exists, that you have to cherish but we do need to set them up for the real world, it’s a tough task but its our duty.

MAMA SNOWBEAR

Mother of 2,Artist ,creator,blogger and illustrator who enjoys lots of tea and the occasional glass of malbec :)

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