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I’m a Preemie Mum
What I learnt when I became Mum to a preemie-
Everyone wants to congratulate you on the arrival of your baby and everyone wants to welcome you home but you don’t want congratulations and you don’t want to put up the cards or open the presents because of all those what ifs.
Nothing can prepare you for the moment you leave
Guilt. Guilt that you couldn’t keep your baby safe and well for as long as you should have. Guilt that you are leaving your child in the care of strangers. Guilt that you can’t be there for every feed and every nappy change. Guilt that you can’t be with your brand new child 24/7. Guilt that you can’t be with your other child and he is
Your baby is incredible. Your baby will prove everyone wrong and fight. He will show everyone
Despite already being a Mum to a toddler you will feel useless and like you have no idea. I was scared to touch my own baby. Scared to change his nappy for fear of treading on the nurses toes or more importantly unhooking wires or tubes. It was so easy to let the amazing nurses do it because I just constantly felt like I was doing something wrong.
My biggest fear was that my
You latch on to what you can control- expressing religiously every 3 hours night and day because it’s all you can do. It’s the only ounce of control you have.
It doesn’t end when you leave hospital because we only left for one week and then things got really bad. Being a preemie doesn’t stop
When a preemie parent tells you that you can’t come and visit, don’t question it. In fact most nurses will advise no visitors apart from immediate family until due date. Please listen. It’s not about you meeting the baby and having a cuddle. It’s not about you in general. It’s about the tiny baby who needs to be
If you have a cold NEVER visit a preemie. Never visit a newborn. Have the respect.
The experience will never ever leave you.