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It’s All a Load of Balls!

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I just saw this thread on Mumsnet, it was a comment from a women who is pissed off with people saying ’you’re doing too much’!  And do you know what? She’s right?

We all say it at times to make someone feel better when they’re struggling with all the balls they’re juggling. But actually on reflection it’s a pretty fucking pointless comment, and one that can make everything seem worse.

You see, when we’re juggling the balls, (as we all are) we have to stay focused, we can’t take our eye off any of the balls, we have to just keep throwing

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them up in the air, flailing our arms around manically trying to catch them all, to keep the sequence for fear of missing one, which in turns fucks up the sequence and the rest of the balls!

When someone say’s ’you do too much’, you take a second from juggling, and you ponder, are you doing too much? You may come up with the answer ’yes I’m doing too much’ and then you start to imagine a way of doing less. Whilst all this fantasising is going on you’ve dropped loads of bastard balls and they’re starting to pile up in a messy heap around your

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feet!

You are now one step behind and a shit load of balls down!

And what happens if we like the balls around our feet, the feelings of freedom from doing less? Who picks up the balls then? Do the balls just disappear and become non-existent? Do we go along in our ball free life, carefree and juggling no more? No, we don’t. The balls don’t disappear, they multiply, they multiply so fast that within two days you’re drowning in balls. You have to work like a master juggler just to get them back into sequence (this can takes weeks of hard

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jugging).

Basically I’m talking a whole load of balls. But pointing out to someone who is doing too much (not by choice but by the nature of their life) all you’re doing is drawing their attention away from the balls and therefore possibly giving them even more to do in the coming days/weeks!

Instead of saying ’you do too much’ how about saying ’can I help you with anything’? That would be far more useful to them and by you taking away just one of their balls they’ll flail less manically and feel as though they can do a little less. And in

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turn you’ll be a fucking awesome friend, and will fill up on your own feel good simply by paying it forward.

* Balls = Teens, toddlers, partners,  housework, shopping, mundane every day bullshit that somebody has to do! 

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- 17 Jun 16

I just saw this thread on Mumsnet, it was a comment from a women who is pissed off with people saying ‘you’re doing too much’!  And do you know what? She’s right?

We all say it at times to make someone feel better when they’re struggling with all the balls they’re juggling. But actually on reflection it’s a pretty fucking pointless comment, and one that can make everything seem worse.

You see, when we’re juggling the balls, (as we all are) we have to stay focused, we can’t take our eye off any of the balls, we have to just keep throwing them up in the air, flailing our arms around manically trying to catch them all, to keep the sequence for fear of missing one, which in turns fucks up the sequence and the rest of the balls!

When someone say’s ‘you do too much’, you take a second from juggling, and you ponder, are you doing too much? You may come up with the answer ‘yes I’m doing too much’ and then you start to imagine a way of doing less. Whilst all this fantasising is going on you’ve dropped loads of bastard balls and they’re starting to pile up in a messy heap around your feet!

You are now one step behind and a shit load of balls down!

And what happens if we like the balls around our feet, the feelings of freedom from doing less? Who picks up the balls then? Do the balls just disappear and become non-existent? Do we go along in our ball free life, carefree and juggling no more? No, we don’t. The balls don’t disappear, they multiply, they multiply so fast that within two days you’re drowning in balls. You have to work like a master juggler just to get them back into sequence (this can takes weeks of hard jugging).

Basically I’m talking a whole load of balls. But pointing out to someone who is doing too much (not by choice but by the nature of their life) all you’re doing is drawing their attention away from the balls and therefore possibly giving them even more to do in the coming days/weeks!

Instead of saying ‘you do too much’ how about saying ‘can I help you with anything’? That would be far more useful to them and by you taking away just one of their balls they’ll flail less manically and feel as though they can do a little less. And in turn you’ll be a fucking awesome friend, and will fill up on your own feel good simply by paying it forward.

* Balls = Teens, toddlers, partners,  housework, shopping, mundane every day bullshit that somebody has to do! 

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I'm Lauren, Founder of Wear 'em Out, reusable period pads for the empowered eco-curious. Mother of 4, Step-Mother of 2, I've been parenting for 24 years so have seen and learned a lot of stuff

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