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It’s still not ok, to not be ok!

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Mental health is something we’re talking about. It’s trending on socials and is being addressed more than it’s ever been addressed before, accept it doesn’t seem to apply in the work place or, when being a mum.

For most of us our mental health at is still seen as an excuse. 

You’re off sick with stress and someone sees you in the shop with your makeup on: ‘There’s obviously nothing wrong with her then if she’s out and about’ – 

Yes she’s out and about because she had to take her kid to school, and get milk and food to feed

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said kid. Doesn’t mean she’s not dying on the inside. Doesn’t mean it didn’t take all her inner strength to put on some lippy and face the mothers meeting at the school gates. 

Oh you saw her in a coffee shop with her friend? Well yes, that’s because when we’re depressed or feeling low is when we need our friends the most, is it not? 

And here I find myself again trying to explain invisible illness to the self righteous. 

You don’t know what goes on in somebody’s head. In all fairness you don’t know what goes on with

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someone’s body unless it’s a broken leg or a black eye. 

I can be in an unbearable amount of pain and still get up to take my daughter to preschool, still smile at Janice from the corner shop, and still take a selfie for the gram. 

Does it mean because I’ve posted on my social media I must not be ‘sick?’ 

It’s the 21st Century and we post all aspects of our life on social media these days. That doesn’t mean people aren’t showing you just what they want you to see. Most people don’t post the photos of their breaking heart, or

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their tears when in pain, or their face mid anxiety attack, or during their insomnia. Most people only post photo’s they look good in! Because we don’t want to show the world our mascara stained faces. 

It’s never a good look, and we’d rather portray to the world that we have our shit together, because facing each day and getting through it is an achievement in itself. 

And so I go back to my earlier statement about mums not being allowed a breakdown! 

Sometimes, as soon as my child goes to bed, I throw myself on my own bed and scream

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into my pillow, but you wouldn’t know that, you saw me earlier and I ‘looked really well’ 

Sometimes part of your recovery whatever your ailment has to be about putting one foot in front of the other, so just because you see someone posting on their Facebook status or doing their shopping in Tesco, doesn’t mean they aren’t suffering, you don’t know what it took for that smiled to be applied. 

Robin Williams was the funniest man in history and nobody knew he was suffering. 

Try not to judge people for their problems. It takes a

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better person to try and understand. For some people, work, the gym, their social life, is their saviour. And for others, it is all just too much effort and they need solitude. 

Self care comes in whatever form necessary. It’s not always the difference between a good and bad day. Sometimes it’s the difference between a good and bad minute. 

Definition Mental Health. –

a person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being.

Definition invisible illness – invisible illness, or hidden illness, are defined as

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illnesses that are not immediately apparent to a bystander. 
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- 10 Dec 18

Mental health is something we’re talking about. It’s trending on socials and is being addressed more than it’s ever been addressed before, accept it doesn’t seem to apply in the work place or, when being a mum.

For most of us our mental health at is still seen as an excuse. 

You’re off sick with stress and someone sees you in the shop with your makeup on: ‘There’s obviously nothing wrong with her then if she’s out and about’ – 

Yes she’s out and about because she had to take her kid to school, and get milk and food to feed said kid. Doesn’t mean she’s not dying on the inside. Doesn’t mean it didn’t take all her inner strength to put on some lippy and face the mothers meeting at the school gates. 

Oh you saw her in a coffee shop with her friend? Well yes, that’s because when we’re depressed or feeling low is when we need our friends the most, is it not? 

And here I find myself again trying to explain invisible illness to the self righteous. 

You don’t know what goes on in somebody’s head. In all fairness you don’t know what goes on with someone’s body unless it’s a broken leg or a black eye. 

I can be in an unbearable amount of pain and still get up to take my daughter to preschool, still smile at Janice from the corner shop, and still take a selfie for the gram. 

Does it mean because I’ve posted on my social media I must not be ‘sick?’ 

It’s the 21st Century and we post all aspects of our life on social media these days. That doesn’t mean people aren’t showing you just what they want you to see. Most people don’t post the photos of their breaking heart, or their tears when in pain, or their face mid anxiety attack, or during their insomnia. Most people only post photo’s they look good in! Because we don’t want to show the world our mascara stained faces. 

It’s never a good look, and we’d rather portray to the world that we have our shit together, because facing each day and getting through it is an achievement in itself. 

And so I go back to my earlier statement about mums not being allowed a breakdown! 

Sometimes, as soon as my child goes to bed, I throw myself on my own bed and scream into my pillow, but you wouldn’t know that, you saw me earlier and I ‘looked really well’ 

Sometimes part of your recovery whatever your ailment has to be about putting one foot in front of the other, so just because you see someone posting on their Facebook status or doing their shopping in Tesco, doesn’t mean they aren’t suffering, you don’t know what it took for that smiled to be applied. 

Robin Williams was the funniest man in history and nobody knew he was suffering. 

Try not to judge people for their problems. It takes a better person to try and understand. For some people, work, the gym, their social life, is their saviour. And for others, it is all just too much effort and they need solitude. 

Self care comes in whatever form necessary. It’s not always the difference between a good and bad day. Sometimes it’s the difference between a good and bad minute. 

Definition Mental Health. –

a person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being.

Definition invisible illness – invisible illness, or hidden illness, are defined as illnesses that are not immediately apparent to a bystander. 

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Diva Mum

30 year old boxing fan, ska lover, over thinker, tea drinker, over sharer & over swearer. Loves: my child (obviously) moaning, beach walks, mulled wine and writing!

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