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Mindfulness for mothers, where to begin

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Let me start by saying that I am not a mindfulness and meditation expert in any way shape or form. I am just your average working woman with a family, two rabbits and a predisposition for feeling stressed who is learning to be more mindful. A while back I realised I was short-changing the people around me because my mind was always somewhere else thinking of other things.

I often feel overwhelmed by responsibility and endless to-do lists. I am easily distracted (usually by my phone) and focusing on a single task can be challenging. Does this happen to

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you too? I feel frustrated and anxious and I realised through speaking to my friends that finding balance is a struggle for most of us. We are all so busy! Our lives, our brains are always ’on’, all the tabs are open at once and it’s exhausting.

Mindfulness is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we’re doing, and not overly reactive or overwhelmed by what’s going on around us – Mindful 

Mindfulness first came into my life in the form of a colouring book, I coloured in for an evening and put

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it in the drawer where it has gathered dust ever since. That didn’t work for me. Then a friend recommended Headspace, a mindfulness App and the first time I tried it I slept like a baby, something I hadn’t done in weeks*. I use Quility now which is designed with mothers in mind and I’m finding that the more I practice the better I get at doing it on my own.

Since I made the conscious decision to be more mindful I have made some small but positive changes to my life like hiding putting my phone away when I’m working towards a deadline,

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focusing on the food I am eating rather than checking social media at lunch time and leaving my phone in my bag when I pick the children up from school. I’m less prone to loosing it with my daughters as well since I seem more able to walk away and calm down when things get heated. I don’t actively meditate every day but I find that I actually look forward to it when I do, it’s ’me time’ after all.

If mindfulness is something you would like to try then I have put together a few tips with the help of Tessa Watt Co-Founder of Quility that will

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help to get you on your way. Tessa Watt

Get stuck in! – Absolutely everyone can benefit from adopting a mindful approach to life. You might worry that it’s not for you or that you can’t do it but the ability to be mindful is something we are all born with. Try it – 2 minutes or 20 minutes, just have a go!
Download a guided meditation App – There’s a lot of choice out there, I have used Headspace and Quility, both offer free sessions so you can try before you

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buy. There are some good recommendations from Jess Lively here.
Find a comfortable space – You don’t need much to practice mindfulness and meditation: a chair, the floor or your sofa. Some people make themselves a cosy corner with cushions and blankets to meditate. It’s up to you, the point is to do it. All I would say if that it is important to be able to feel grounded, to feel the floor under your feet or your body if you decide to lay down, if you get too cosy you will fall asleep!
Persevere – This part is a bit like going to the gym, you
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have to keep going, the more you workout the better you will get at it at changes will become apparent in time. Mindfulness works in a similar way, changes are happening at a deep level even if you are not immediately aware of them.
Mindfulness and anxiety – This isn’t a tip to get you started on your mindfulness journey as such but rather a positive outcome.  Tessa explained that when you begin to adopt a mindful approach you are better equipped to deal with negative situations and emotions because you are more aware of what’s actually going
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on. Small things can tip us over the edge and some days spilling your coffee down your shirt can send all sorts of negative thoughts racing through your mind. With a mindful approach you can see it for what it is: simply an inconvenience, you are not stupid or a loser because and it certainly doesn’t have to set the tone for the rest of your day. Because we are more tuned into the moment, we are able deal with upsetting situations that cause stress and anxiety in a more positive way.

As for me, I have learnt breathing techniques that help me

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to drift off to sleep and I’m getting better at emptying my head of other ’noisy’ thoughts that stop me from living in the present moment. I’m constantly falling off the mindfulness waggon but I’m determined to get back on again and that’s the point, I’m more aware and I’m trying to so something about it.

This topic is very close to my heart and I would really love some feedback from any of you out there who want to share their experiences, as always you can leave a comment at the bottom of the page.

I would also like to thank Tessa Watt

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for her contribution to this post.

Antonia x

*Practicing mindfulness exercises in bed is not recommended because you tend to fall asleep but if that’s something you need then I say go for it!

 

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Let me start by saying that I am not a mindfulness and meditation expert in any way shape or form. I am just your average working woman with a family, two rabbits and a predisposition for feeling stressed who is learning to be more mindful. A while back I realised I was short-changing the people around me because my mind was always somewhere else thinking of other things.

I often feel overwhelmed by responsibility and endless to-do lists. I am easily distracted (usually by my phone) and focusing on a single task can be challenging. Does this happen to you too? I feel frustrated and anxious and I realised through speaking to my friends that finding balance is a struggle for most of us. We are all so busy! Our lives, our brains are always ‘on’, all the tabs are open at once and it’s exhausting.


Mindfulness is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we’re doing, and not overly reactive or overwhelmed by what’s going on around usMindful 


Mindfulness first came into my life in the form of a colouring book, I coloured in for an evening and put it in the drawer where it has gathered dust ever since. That didn’t work for me. Then a friend recommended Headspace, a mindfulness App and the first time I tried it I slept like a baby, something I hadn’t done in weeks*. I use Quility now which is designed with mothers in mind and I’m finding that the more I practice the better I get at doing it on my own.

Since I made the conscious decision to be more mindful I have made some small but positive changes to my life like hiding putting my phone away when I’m working towards a deadline, focusing on the food I am eating rather than checking social media at lunch time and leaving my phone in my bag when I pick the children up from school. I’m less prone to loosing it with my daughters as well since I seem more able to walk away and calm down when things get heated. I don’t actively meditate every day but I find that I actually look forward to it when I do, it’s ‘me time’ after all.

If mindfulness is something you would like to try then I have put together a few tips with the help of Tessa Watt Co-Founder of Quility that will help to get you on your way.

Tessa Watt Quility App
Tessa Watt
  1. Get stuck in! – Absolutely everyone can benefit from adopting a mindful approach to life. You might worry that it’s not for you or that you can’t do it but the ability to be mindful is something we are all born with. Try it – 2 minutes or 20 minutes, just have a go!
  2. Download a guided meditation App – There’s a lot of choice out there, I have used Headspace and Quility, both offer free sessions so you can try before you buy. There are some good recommendations from Jess Lively here.
  3. Find a comfortable space – You don’t need much to practice mindfulness and meditation: a chair, the floor or your sofa. Some people make themselves a cosy corner with cushions and blankets to meditate. It’s up to you, the point is to do it. All I would say if that it is important to be able to feel grounded, to feel the floor under your feet or your body if you decide to lay down, if you get too cosy you will fall asleep!
  4. Persevere – This part is a bit like going to the gym, you have to keep going, the more you workout the better you will get at it at changes will become apparent in time. Mindfulness works in a similar way, changes are happening at a deep level even if you are not immediately aware of them.
  5. Mindfulness and anxiety – This isn’t a tip to get you started on your mindfulness journey as such but rather a positive outcome.  Tessa explained that when you begin to adopt a mindful approach you are better equipped to deal with negative situations and emotions because you are more aware of what’s actually going on. Small things can tip us over the edge and some days spilling your coffee down your shirt can send all sorts of negative thoughts racing through your mind. With a mindful approach you can see it for what it is: simply an inconvenience, you are not stupid or a loser because and it certainly doesn’t have to set the tone for the rest of your day. Because we are more tuned into the moment, we are able deal with upsetting situations that cause stress and anxiety in a more positive way.

As for me, I have learnt breathing techniques that help me to drift off to sleep and I’m getting better at emptying my head of other ‘noisy’ thoughts that stop me from living in the present moment. I’m constantly falling off the mindfulness waggon but I’m determined to get back on again and that’s the point, I’m more aware and I’m trying to so something about it.

This topic is very close to my heart and I would really love some feedback from any of you out there who want to share their experiences, as always you can leave a comment at the bottom of the page.

I would also like to thank Tessa Watt for her contribution to this post.

Antonia x


*Practicing mindfulness exercises in bed is not recommended because you tend to fall asleep but if that’s something you need then I say go for it!

 

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Hi! I'm Antonia and I have three lovely daughters aged 9,10 and 12 - I'm quietly bracing myself for their teenage years at the moment. I am a former pre-school teacher and I now spend my time writing my lifestyle blog and hustling for a living. I love a Breton stripe, a cup of tea and chat, I might just be partial to the odd alcoholic beverage too! I honestly could not have survived the early years of motherhood without the support of my friends who could turn my tears into laughter and were always willing to listen, moan with me and have the odd drink in order to get us through those wonderful but at times, dark days. Check in on my blog if you want to hear more from me at http://tinkertailor.online where I talk style, beauty, interiors and wellbeing. I also like to hang around on Instagram @tinkertailoronline

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