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MY BEST FRIEND KATE MOSS

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Kate and me, we go way back. All the way back to Croydon, and her shoots with Corinne Day. I remember her 30th Birthday Party in 2004, themed on The Beautiful and Damned, when Kate had a spot which she had to artfully hide with her hair. I remember her friendship with Sadie Frost. Her relationships, with Johnny Depp, Jefferson Hack, Pete Doherty. I was there (in spirit) when Lila was born.

However, this best-friendship with Kate is one-sided. Just a teensy bit. Mainly because we’ve never met. Nope, not once. I’ve been within breathing distance of

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Kate – sounds creepy, but what I mean is that I’ve been to several parties which Kate has also attended. We may have brushed past each other on the way to the loo. I watched her walk on many catwalks in buzzing fashion shows, when I was a fashion journalist.

But nope, Kate and I have never met. When I launched Selfish Mother in 2013, I posted quotes on the Facebook page and one of them was by Kate, it said, ”Now Lila is born, I feel like I’ve a partner in crime.”

Kate’s essence, for me was Selfish Mother, and so when I launched my tops, I had

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a goal that Kate would wear one. In 2015, when I heard a friend-of-a-friend worked with Kate, I sent a Mother vest to the friend-of-friend, who left it in Kate’s kitchen. I lived in hope that one day Kate would appear in the media wearing it. She didn’t!

So imagine my utter JOY when I collaborated on the Christmas Jumper collection in 2018 with Save the Children, and they GOT KATE. They got her to wear one of my sweatshirts! Yes, I wanted to go to the shoot. No, they wouldn’t let me. But still, Kate wore one of my tops. I mean, we’re almost

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related now, aren’t we?

But why I am writing about my mate Kate? It’s because I had an epiphany of sorts that I wanted to share with you, on the meaning of celebrities in our lives. It’s a realisation that only comes with age. You see, I’ve long held the belief that celebrity fixes offer escapism, that whatever s**t is going down in the world, pedestal people can offer us an escape. But recently, I’ve realised there is more to it than that… there is a comfort, I’ve found, in ageing with virtual ’friends.’

There’s a strange cocoon that

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growing older together but miles apart, can give us. The reason the Beckham documentary was so popular, was because we’ve aged with them. We remember when David and Victoria got together, we remember those thrones at the wedding, and when Brooklyn was born. Ditto, Lily Allen and Miquita Oliver’s podcast feels comforting to me, as I’ve known them both, since Miquita presented T4, and I saw Lily Allen in trainers and a prom dress at at East London party when she had her first album out. My friends!

So, when I saw Kate celebrating her 50th birthday on

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holiday this January, with old buddies Sadie Frost and Rosemary Ferguson, I felt a sort of warm glow, as I realised that they’ve been living out their lives and friendships – ageing in tandem – since those heady noughties days of Primrose Hill (them) and Tooting Bec (me). We’re all still trucking. We’re growing older together, but apart. They’re still going, and so am I.

It’s why I still feel a pang of sadness, that Brittany Murphy died aged just 32. Brittany was my friend, too. In fact – quite strangely – she played a character called Molly Gunn

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in Uptown Girls. Brittany was also born in 1977 like me. She was also 5’2”. I thought we were soul sisters, but Brittany didn’t make it.

In fact, I imagined Brittany would play me in the film of my life – were one to ever get made. Now, I’ll have to ask Kate instead. It’s a stretch I know, but, um, has anyone got her number? I’m sure she’ll be cool with it. We’re best friends, after all.

 

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Kate and me, we go way back. All the way back to Croydon, and her shoots with Corinne Day. I remember her 30th Birthday Party in 2004, themed on The Beautiful and Damned, when Kate had a spot which she had to artfully hide with her hair. I remember her friendship with Sadie Frost. Her relationships, with Johnny Depp, Jefferson Hack, Pete Doherty. I was there (in spirit) when Lila was born.

However, this best-friendship with Kate is one-sided. Just a teensy bit. Mainly because we’ve never met. Nope, not once. I’ve been within breathing distance of Kate – sounds creepy, but what I mean is that I’ve been to several parties which Kate has also attended. We may have brushed past each other on the way to the loo. I watched her walk on many catwalks in buzzing fashion shows, when I was a fashion journalist.

But nope, Kate and I have never met. When I launched Selfish Mother in 2013, I posted quotes on the Facebook page and one of them was by Kate, it said, “Now Lila is born, I feel like I’ve a partner in crime.

Kate’s essence, for me was Selfish Mother, and so when I launched my tops, I had a goal that Kate would wear one. In 2015, when I heard a friend-of-a-friend worked with Kate, I sent a Mother vest to the friend-of-friend, who left it in Kate’s kitchen. I lived in hope that one day Kate would appear in the media wearing it. She didn’t!

So imagine my utter JOY when I collaborated on the Christmas Jumper collection in 2018 with Save the Children, and they GOT KATE. They got her to wear one of my sweatshirts! Yes, I wanted to go to the shoot. No, they wouldn’t let me. But still, Kate wore one of my tops. I mean, we’re almost related now, aren’t we?

But why I am writing about my mate Kate? It’s because I had an epiphany of sorts that I wanted to share with you, on the meaning of celebrities in our lives. It’s a realisation that only comes with age. You see, I’ve long held the belief that celebrity fixes offer escapism, that whatever s**t is going down in the world, pedestal people can offer us an escape. But recently, I’ve realised there is more to it than that… there is a comfort, I’ve found, in ageing with virtual ‘friends.’

There’s a strange cocoon that growing older together but miles apart, can give us. The reason the Beckham documentary was so popular, was because we’ve aged with them. We remember when David and Victoria got together, we remember those thrones at the wedding, and when Brooklyn was born. Ditto, Lily Allen and Miquita Oliver’s podcast feels comforting to me, as I’ve known them both, since Miquita presented T4, and I saw Lily Allen in trainers and a prom dress at at East London party when she had her first album out. My friends!

So, when I saw Kate celebrating her 50th birthday on holiday this January, with old buddies Sadie Frost and Rosemary Ferguson, I felt a sort of warm glow, as I realised that they’ve been living out their lives and friendships – ageing in tandem – since those heady noughties days of Primrose Hill (them) and Tooting Bec (me). We’re all still trucking. We’re growing older together, but apart. They’re still going, and so am I.

It’s why I still feel a pang of sadness, that Brittany Murphy died aged just 32. Brittany was my friend, too. In fact – quite strangely – she played a character called Molly Gunn in Uptown Girls. Brittany was also born in 1977 like me. She was also 5’2″. I thought we were soul sisters, but Brittany didn’t make it.

In fact, I imagined Brittany would play me in the film of my life – were one to ever get made. Now, I’ll have to ask Kate instead. It’s a stretch I know, but, um, has anyone got her number? I’m sure she’ll be cool with it. We’re best friends, after all.

 

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Molly Gunn is the founder and editor of Selfish Mother, a site she created for like-minded women in 2013. Molly has been a journalist for over 15 years, starting out working on fashion desks at The Guardian, The Telegraph & ES Magazine before going freelance in 2006 to write for quality publications. She now edits Selfish Mother, sells #GoodTees to raise funds for charity, & writes freelance for Red Magazine and The Sunday Telegraph's Stella. Molly is mother to Rafferty, 6, Fox, 4, and baby Liberty. She is married to Tom aka music producer Tee Mango and founder of Millionhands. They live in Bruton, Somerset.

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