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So i’m sitting at home on the sofa in my fiances top, last nights make-up, hair in a messy bun, drinking a cup of tea wishing it was wine whilst rocking Loveday-Blooms bouncer with my foot, she’s just drifted off (I would imagine she’s tired what with keeping her Daddy up all night).

Having a new born isn’t easy, in fact it’s bloody hard. Without a doubt THE most difficult thing I have ever done. Everyone says ‘enjoy the peace and quiet whilst you can’ or ‘say goodbye to lay ins’ or even ‘your life won’t be the same ever again’

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what with them being the most annoying unwanted ‘advice’ from strangers who’s opinions you didn’t even ask for no one truly tells you how difficult it is but then again if they did none of us would have babies.

At 22 weeks myself and Jordan went to a hypnobirthing class (the wise hippo course for anyone who is interested) and omg it changed my opinion on child birth dramatically. I was that person that decided they wanted an epidural from the moment I saw the two lines on the test and I left the 10 hour course wanting a water birth with no

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medical intervention. Anyone that has had a baby will know that not very often do you get that perfect birthing plan you so wished for, I certainly didn’t! I ended up with an emergency C-Section at 31+5, despite it being an emergency we knew it was going to happen and the whole experience was so calm and surprisingly enjoyable, the HB course had a huge part to play in that without a doubt! Whilst I felt like bit of a twat listening and repeating the positive birth affirmations on the way to work everyday it made a positive impact, so for any expecting
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Mums reading this I highly recommend the course. Jordan even enjoyed the 4 sessions, becoming so relaxed during the exercises he fell asleep which our teacher assured us was a good thing (but still embarrassing as he snores)

Despite not getting my ‘perfect birth’ I was pretty happy with it, the C-Section went as smoothly as can be and luckily I recovered really quickly but the hardest part was having a premature baby and spending 12 hours a day for 6 weeks on the NICU. The hardest day was 3 days after giving birth and I was discharged (at 1am, I

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wasn’t happy) having to leave the hospital without your baby is just heartbreaking and I remember just sobbing the whole way home. Now do I realise the power of hormones, I’ve never been more emotional in my life, even now 8 weeks on I have meltdowns for silly reasons but then I remind myself how far i’ve come!

NICU is such a surreal place, it’s a very lonely at times as quite often I had no communication with anyone for the whole day other than the nurse looking after LB, what with Jordan saving his paternity until we got home it was bloody

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difficult! I found talking to other Mums in a similar situation helped me massively because no one can really imagine what it’s like unless you’ve lived it. I am so grateful to have been able to talk and connect with other Mums who were currently on NICU when I was or had experienced it even weeks, months or years ago. It made me realise all those feelings I had were normal, I wasn’t going insane and that hiding to cry was totally expected!

Even though we didn’t have the easiest start I wouldn’t change a single thing as it makes you so much

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more grateful. I’m so over joyed with my happy and healthy baby girl that those 6 weeks of microwave meals, Costa Coffee and constant commutes between home and hospital seem like a distant memory! Being a Mum is the most challenging thing I have done in my 24 years but I feel like no one really knows what they’re doing, it’s just a guessing game. I’m lucky my Mum had 4 and I have 2 Sisters with 3 kids between them so I’ve had plenty of advice, but a lot of it is finding your own style because everyone has their own way of doing things. I
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genuinely believe that there is no wrong way, just what’s best for every individual Mama & their baby but we’ve got this!

Brogan x

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- 6 Aug 17

So i’m sitting at home on the sofa in my fiances top, last nights make-up, hair in a messy bun, drinking a cup of tea wishing it was wine whilst rocking Loveday-Blooms bouncer with my foot, she’s just drifted off (I would imagine she’s tired what with keeping her Daddy up all night).

Having a new born isn’t easy, in fact it’s bloody hard. Without a doubt THE most difficult thing I have ever done. Everyone says ‘enjoy the peace and quiet whilst you can’ or ‘say goodbye to lay ins’ or even ‘your life won’t be the same ever again’ what with them being the most annoying unwanted ‘advice’ from strangers who’s opinions you didn’t even ask for no one truly tells you how difficult it is but then again if they did none of us would have babies.

At 22 weeks myself and Jordan went to a hypnobirthing class (the wise hippo course for anyone who is interested) and omg it changed my opinion on child birth dramatically. I was that person that decided they wanted an epidural from the moment I saw the two lines on the test and I left the 10 hour course wanting a water birth with no medical intervention. Anyone that has had a baby will know that not very often do you get that perfect birthing plan you so wished for, I certainly didn’t! I ended up with an emergency C-Section at 31+5, despite it being an emergency we knew it was going to happen and the whole experience was so calm and surprisingly enjoyable, the HB course had a huge part to play in that without a doubt! Whilst I felt like bit of a twat listening and repeating the positive birth affirmations on the way to work everyday it made a positive impact, so for any expecting Mums reading this I highly recommend the course. Jordan even enjoyed the 4 sessions, becoming so relaxed during the exercises he fell asleep which our teacher assured us was a good thing (but still embarrassing as he snores)

Despite not getting my ‘perfect birth’ I was pretty happy with it, the C-Section went as smoothly as can be and luckily I recovered really quickly but the hardest part was having a premature baby and spending 12 hours a day for 6 weeks on the NICU. The hardest day was 3 days after giving birth and I was discharged (at 1am, I wasn’t happy) having to leave the hospital without your baby is just heartbreaking and I remember just sobbing the whole way home. Now do I realise the power of hormones, I’ve never been more emotional in my life, even now 8 weeks on I have meltdowns for silly reasons but then I remind myself how far i’ve come!

NICU is such a surreal place, it’s a very lonely at times as quite often I had no communication with anyone for the whole day other than the nurse looking after LB, what with Jordan saving his paternity until we got home it was bloody difficult! I found talking to other Mums in a similar situation helped me massively because no one can really imagine what it’s like unless you’ve lived it. I am so grateful to have been able to talk and connect with other Mums who were currently on NICU when I was or had experienced it even weeks, months or years ago. It made me realise all those feelings I had were normal, I wasn’t going insane and that hiding to cry was totally expected!

Even though we didn’t have the easiest start I wouldn’t change a single thing as it makes you so much more grateful. I’m so over joyed with my happy and healthy baby girl that those 6 weeks of microwave meals, Costa Coffee and constant commutes between home and hospital seem like a distant memory! Being a Mum is the most challenging thing I have done in my 24 years but I feel like no one really knows what they’re doing, it’s just a guessing game. I’m lucky my Mum had 4 and I have 2 Sisters with 3 kids between them so I’ve had plenty of advice, but a lot of it is finding your own style because everyone has their own way of doing things. I genuinely believe that there is no wrong way, just what’s best for every individual Mama & their baby but we’ve got this!

Brogan x

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