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Sisterhood

I have a sister, a twin in fact. She is 4mins older than me.We are probably more alike than I think we are but on the surface we seem completely different. The way we talk (she has lived in Scotland for years and has picked up that twang), the way we dress, our choice of partners and friends, our jobs, and how we live our lives. We barely communicate (I’m saying communicate as ’talking’ seems to be a thing of the past), maybe the odd ’looks messy down there Kate, how’s life??’ message/comment on facebook. But when the shit is royally

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hitting the fan she calls me when she needs advice about anything, life in general, girly stuff, girly private stuff.

I, on the other hand, look to my girlfriends, this is probably because I live a daily struggle with all of mine (ok mainly, child 2 and man cub) and need that daily input from anyone who passes, even just the ’It’s ok Kate nod’. I am a little more social (being uber diplomatic here) than my sister and from that I have built up an awesome circle of girls, there is always room for more though. I wear my heart on my sleeve and can talk

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about anything and pretty much usually do, nothing goes unsaid if I have a little issue or a life changing one, I talk and talk and talk. But the ’sisterhood’ seems to have disappeared somewhat. I heard a story the other day of a mum being in a playground, her 5 year old son had just started the primary school and for whatever reason ended up in a spat with another boy, this newcomer accidentally (or maybe not) splurted out the F word. Now I don’t know about anyone else but I splurge out all kinds of expletives when angry, especially when the little
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darlings won’t do as they are f***ing told after telling them for the shitting gazillionth f***ing time!!!!!!!!!!!! In the playground a few of the mums had formed a little blob of bodies and proceeded to talk about (slag off, let’s face it) the mother and the boy, the mother overheard them and felt all she could do was go to social media and message one of the many mummy sites for what I can only see as support/help/someone to talk to/and maybe some  reassurance that her little boy, who was new and probably a little uneasy at a  new school, was
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infact NORMAL!!! What is wrong with these women?? Where has the support gone? what about the ’I’m so sorry my little one swore at yours (yours probably deserved it as he is just as much of a shit as mine is……), please be rest assured it has been dealt with’????

I had a day off yesterday and I needed some girly time. Another friend had the same day off so we went out to sea on our kayaks. She drank coffee and I drank wine, she had scampi and I had scallops, but we both had chips and we talked. We talk about life, we spoke about our children and

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their ever changing ’phases’ (I really don’t like that term, about as much as I hate emoji’s and hashtags, but they are the necessary evil).

I am not going to lie, we do talk about everything…..but for goodness sake who has the right to judge anyone??? Even the most perfect of parents don’t have the right to judge as they are perfect on their level of living, who says that that level should be the one we all abide by? As long as our children are happy and healthy we can reel in the ”Fuck off you dick” with a ”even if you think it darling,

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let’s not say it”. It’s a hard enough job as it is without having other mum’s feeling the need to slag off (I’m rolling with that one) a 5 year old, never mind slagging each other off who are clearly finding things a little tough in their moment of life.
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- 1 Oct 16

Sisterhood

I have a sister, a twin in fact. She is 4mins older than me.We are probably more alike than I think we are but on the surface we seem completely different. The way we talk (she has lived in Scotland for years and has picked up that twang), the way we dress, our choice of partners and friends, our jobs, and how we live our lives. We barely communicate (I’m saying communicate as ‘talking’ seems to be a thing of the past), maybe the odd ‘looks messy down there Kate, how’s life??’ message/comment on facebook. But when the shit is royally hitting the fan she calls me when she needs advice about anything, life in general, girly stuff, girly private stuff.

I, on the other hand, look to my girlfriends, this is probably because I live a daily struggle with all of mine (ok mainly, child 2 and man cub) and need that daily input from anyone who passes, even just the ‘It’s ok Kate nod’. I am a little more social (being uber diplomatic here) than my sister and from that I have built up an awesome circle of girls, there is always room for more though. I wear my heart on my sleeve and can talk about anything and pretty much usually do, nothing goes unsaid if I have a little issue or a life changing one, I talk and talk and talk. But the ‘sisterhood’ seems to have disappeared somewhat. I heard a story the other day of a mum being in a playground, her 5 year old son had just started the primary school and for whatever reason ended up in a spat with another boy, this newcomer accidentally (or maybe not) splurted out the F word. Now I don’t know about anyone else but I splurge out all kinds of expletives when angry, especially when the little darlings won’t do as they are f***ing told after telling them for the shitting gazillionth f***ing time!!!!!!!!!!!! In the playground a few of the mums had formed a little blob of bodies and proceeded to talk about (slag off, let’s face it) the mother and the boy, the mother overheard them and felt all she could do was go to social media and message one of the many mummy sites for what I can only see as support/help/someone to talk to/and maybe some  reassurance that her little boy, who was new and probably a little uneasy at a  new school, was infact NORMAL!!! What is wrong with these women?? Where has the support gone? what about the ‘I’m so sorry my little one swore at yours (yours probably deserved it as he is just as much of a shit as mine is……), please be rest assured it has been dealt with’????

I had a day off yesterday and I needed some girly time. Another friend had the same day off so we went out to sea on our kayaks. She drank coffee and I drank wine, she had scampi and I had scallops, but we both had chips and we talked. We talk about life, we spoke about our children and their ever changing ‘phases’ (I really don’t like that term, about as much as I hate emoji’s and hashtags, but they are the necessary evil).

I am not going to lie, we do talk about everything…..but for goodness sake who has the right to judge anyone??? Even the most perfect of parents don’t have the right to judge as they are perfect on their level of living, who says that that level should be the one we all abide by? As long as our children are happy and healthy we can reel in the “Fuck off you dick” with a “even if you think it darling, let’s not say it”. It’s a hard enough job as it is without having other mum’s feeling the need to slag off (I’m rolling with that one) a 5 year old, never mind slagging each other off who are clearly finding things a little tough in their moment of life.

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