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Guilty of not feeling guilty enough!
If you are a stay at home mom who thinks women who go to work “unnecessarily” should be relieved of their reproductive organs, just click on by. Silently.
Chances are however, if you are on Linked in and reading this, you’re not that kind of gal.
If you are a working mom looking for a compassionate reindition of tips and tricks on how you can overcome the guilt of being a working mom, please, let me kindly point you in the direction of the plethora of articles available to you online. This one isn’t for you.
This is for the mothers
I am here to say, to all those guiltless mamas out there, stop feeling guilty about not feeling guilty. Let’s get one thing straight, it has been scientifically proven that the amount of guilt a mother feels does NOT directly correlate to the amount of love she feels for her child. Now we’ve settled that myth, let’s move on.
I’ve packed in motherhood and gone back to work. Ok, that does sound a bit dramatic I admit. I haven’t quite
I am in a funny place, a bit like a pancake suspended in mid air somewhere between the frying pan and the fire. I am not a stay at home martyr mom who will tell anyone who will listen about how much she does during the day. I
I am also not a mother who struggles to balance work and motherhood while constantly sharing memes about how I
I am not saying that either group is better than the other, I am saying that many of us don’t feat neatly into the teams aforementioned, and that’s ok.
This puts me in an awkward but not solitary position. I, like many expat working mothers am somewhere in the middle, I have
As a working mom who “voluntarily” spends eight hours a day away from her child, I find the most challenging task of all is not the balancing act but the ignoring act. Ignoring every negative comment and accusation I get because I have decided to maintain my independence and sense of self despite “not having to.” Apparently if you are an expat, there is a level of income, once reached by your husband, you are automatically
I remember my first mothers’ coffee morning postpartum. It was in a small coffee shop surrounded by new mothers and babies only just a few weeks old. “We are SO lucky we don’t have to work.” piped up one lady. I stared at her quizically for few seconds trying to decipher what she meant. I had always worked, loved my job and enjoyed being vocationally
Living in an expat community amidst a culture that places a high value on the merits of a stay at home mom, voicing a desire to return to the workplace is akin to blasphemy. According to these ladies you might as well wrap your baby in a blanket and dump him in a nearby recycling bin.
It fast became
I found myself lying to friends and relatives. I feigned fiancial difficulty to justify my decision to spend eight hours a day doing something I love. Most saw it as an excuse to be away from my child. The focus became on my son being left behind and not on the
I don’t have much to say to the people who criticize and philosophize on the values of a stay at home mother. They are not my concern. What I am saying to all the guiltless mothers out there, it’s ok. Guilt is not a prerequisite for being a good mother.
Moms get it hard. Do you think men go around giving each other derogatory stares and saying things like, “Oh, you’re working late tonight? Don’t you miss him? Won’t you miss the milestones. Is he safe with nanny?” Men have it easy. The love and commitment they have for
I was at a traffic light when I turned my head to get a glimpse of my back seat. There was no toddler clapping in the car seat. There was however my 1980’s saffiano leather briefcase now repurposed as a laptop bag. I felt a jolt of excitement in my stomach. I am not saying it is better, or
So, I made my decision and owned it with pride. I enrolled my child in a nursery, hired a nanny and returned to full
I am back at work and unapologetically so. Now, when I drive to work in the morning and see my laptop case in the back seat alongside my trusted Camelback and lunchbox I feel no remorse or guilt. Just a buzz of excitement as I look forward to the day ahead.