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’Are you excited about becoming a Mummy?’
There were a lot of damaging things said to me during my pregnancy – ’Gosh! Aren’t you big?’, ’Are you prepared for the pain?’ and all the standard horrors pregnant ladies have to face, however this question was by far the worst for me.
This was a question I was asked A LOT during my pregnancy. Everyone that asked this question knew about Caitlin and knew our story and that is what made this question a blow every single time someone asked.
I am Caitlin’s step mum and I have been since she was
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just five years old. Caitlin’s biological mum passed away just before her first birthday. I didn’t give birth to Caitlin, I didn’t have the fortune of knowing her as a baby but from the age of five she has classed me as her female parent (AKA a Mum!) I have wiped her bum, held her when she was poorly, read to her at bedtime, cried at every single one of her school performances and kissed her good night for over five years now. Most importantly though, I have loved her so fiercely with every cell in my body and she has loved me back, completely
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unconditionally. I already am a Mummy, why were so many people nonchalantly disregarding this fact?
What I found most illuminating was when my youngest brother (who was 16 at the time) was asked if he was excited about becoming an uncle. His answer was simply – ’I already am an uncle, to Cait’.
That is when I realised why I was so upset, not because they were disregarding me as a mother, well they were, but the worst bit was they were disregarding Caitlin as being my daughter. Caitlin, the most amazing and important human being I have ever
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had the honour to meet. The child I have helped raise and nurture. The child who chose me as their mum.
Being a mum is so much more than pregnancy and birth. When my baby was born it was instant love which is amazing and magical. However, hearing Caitlin call me Mummy for the first time will always be one of my greatest achievements. People say you can’t choose your family, but Caitlin did and she chose me.
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Amy Bowden - 13 Apr 16
‘Are you excited about becoming a Mummy?’
There were a lot of damaging things said to me during my pregnancy – ‘Gosh! Aren’t you big?’, ‘Are you prepared for the pain?’ and all the standard horrors pregnant ladies have to face, however this question was by far the worst for me.
This was a question I was asked A LOT during my pregnancy. Everyone that asked this question knew about Caitlin and knew our story and that is what made this question a blow every single time someone asked.
I am Caitlin’s step mum and I have been since she was just five years old. Caitlin’s biological mum passed away just before her first birthday. I didn’t give birth to Caitlin, I didn’t have the fortune of knowing her as a baby but from the age of five she has classed me as her female parent (AKA a Mum!) I have wiped her bum, held her when she was poorly, read to her at bedtime, cried at every single one of her school performances and kissed her good night for over five years now. Most importantly though, I have loved her so fiercely with every cell in my body and she has loved me back, completely unconditionally. I already am a Mummy, why were so many people nonchalantly disregarding this fact?
What I found most illuminating was when my youngest brother (who was 16 at the time) was asked if he was excited about becoming an uncle. His answer was simply – ‘I already am an uncle, to Cait’.
That is when I realised why I was so upset, not because they were disregarding me as a mother, well they were, but the worst bit was they were disregarding Caitlin as being my daughter. Caitlin, the most amazing and important human being I have ever had the honour to meet. The child I have helped raise and nurture. The child who chose me as their mum.
Being a mum is so much more than pregnancy and birth. When my baby was born it was instant love which is amazing and magical. However, hearing Caitlin call me Mummy for the first time will always be one of my greatest achievements. People say you can’t choose your family, but Caitlin did and she chose me.
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