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The definition of a top knot…
(NOUN) – A knot of hair arranged on the top of your head.
To me my top knot represents just a little more than this, it represents me as a mother. A little un-organised, messy at times and quick! find the easiest solution! Not to mention getting hot and bothered trying arrange my life, keeping my hair away from my little man’s intertwining fingers, constantly running out of time and for the bus.
Strangely enough if I do ever decide today is the day to sort my excuse for a Brillo pad bun, it slowly returns to
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itself within a couple of hours. The moment my locks look lengthy and kept, a panic arises as if things are a little too organised. I’m used to things being slightly chaotic in my life – if there’s not a pile of stickle bricks somewhere on the floor, or a half eaten apple core on the table, then I feel slightly uneasy. Perfection is not my thing, I never strive for it nor does it fall in to my lap, apart from my children’s angelic faces (wink wink).
When the day is over I feel a great sense of satisfaction if things are a little tidier, but I try
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to not let the washing basket rule my life. Don’t get me wrong, the washing machine does holler at me most days, but I have learnt ”slow and steady” wins the race. Spreading myself too thin can lead to a big old stressed out mama, the top knot then grows bigger and messier too! Just getting a couple of jobs done a day so I can hang with my little posse makes life all tickety boo. Obviously there are days when all of this goes completely out of the window and I turn into a whirling dervish blitzing everything everywhere. But watch out, on these days I
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need to be approached with caution, just like my little firecracker of a daughter I too turn into little miss small but feisty!
To me its just not worth the tears and stress, I once had a lady say to me that she would never have more than two children because she is such a perfectionist when it comes to her life and that she feels sick if beds aren’t made before she leaves the house in the morning. I found this shocking that such major life decisions had been made due to having a clean house. May I add that this lady did NOT have a top knot!
Roll
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on the countless peas stuck in the rug, the tiny barbie clothes in peculiar places and missing shoes. This what makes life real, as does my signature hair style, I look at mothers who have their shit together and imagine how mine could be similar. In all honestly it never will be nor do I want it, not that I don’t admire all they do and the way they execute it, they are superwomen. We all have our routines and rituals and thats what makes us who we are.
So another day has begins and as I apply the warpaint I look at my sorry mop, thinking whether to
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give it a little attention. The band slowly comes off with a little struggle and some hair loss,and there it is… ”MUUUUUMMMMMMMYYYYY!!!”… Sorry locks, back in you go!
Mad props to any mother that can avoid donning the topknot, I bow down to you! But to mothers rocking the ”messy bun” look daily like me …. grab a vintage scarf, tie a big bow to jazz it up a little, it’ll make you feel like we too have our shit together as well. Plus it’s a great distraction from the ”up do” going on behind it! xxx
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Victoria Ruddick - 5 May 16
The definition of a top knot…
(NOUN) – A knot of hair arranged on the top of your head.
To me my top knot represents just a little more than this, it represents me as a mother. A little un-organised, messy at times and quick! find the easiest solution! Not to mention getting hot and bothered trying arrange my life, keeping my hair away from my little man’s intertwining fingers, constantly running out of time and for the bus.
Strangely enough if I do ever decide today is the day to sort my excuse for a Brillo pad bun, it slowly returns to itself within a couple of hours. The moment my locks look lengthy and kept, a panic arises as if things are a little too organised. I’m used to things being slightly chaotic in my life – if there’s not a pile of stickle bricks somewhere on the floor, or a half eaten apple core on the table, then I feel slightly uneasy. Perfection is not my thing, I never strive for it nor does it fall in to my lap, apart from my children’s angelic faces (wink wink).
When the day is over I feel a great sense of satisfaction if things are a little tidier, but I try to not let the washing basket rule my life. Don’t get me wrong, the washing machine does holler at me most days, but I have learnt “slow and steady” wins the race. Spreading myself too thin can lead to a big old stressed out mama, the top knot then grows bigger and messier too! Just getting a couple of jobs done a day so I can hang with my little posse makes life all tickety boo. Obviously there are days when all of this goes completely out of the window and I turn into a whirling dervish blitzing everything everywhere. But watch out, on these days I need to be approached with caution, just like my little firecracker of a daughter I too turn into little miss small but feisty!
To me its just not worth the tears and stress, I once had a lady say to me that she would never have more than two children because she is such a perfectionist when it comes to her life and that she feels sick if beds aren’t made before she leaves the house in the morning. I found this shocking that such major life decisions had been made due to having a clean house. May I add that this lady did NOT have a top knot!
Roll on the countless peas stuck in the rug, the tiny barbie clothes in peculiar places and missing shoes. This what makes life real, as does my signature hair style, I look at mothers who have their shit together and imagine how mine could be similar. In all honestly it never will be nor do I want it, not that I don’t admire all they do and the way they execute it, they are superwomen. We all have our routines and rituals and thats what makes us who we are.
So another day has begins and as I apply the warpaint I look at my sorry mop, thinking whether to give it a little attention. The band slowly comes off with a little struggle and some hair loss,and there it is… “MUUUUUMMMMMMMYYYYY!!!”… Sorry locks, back in you go!
Mad props to any mother that can avoid donning the topknot, I bow down to you! But to mothers rocking the “messy bun” look daily like me …. grab a vintage scarf, tie a big bow to jazz it up a little, it’ll make you feel like we too have our shit together as well. Plus it’s a great distraction from the “up do” going on behind it! xxx
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