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Oh wow, you look about 12

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As a young mum of two children (and a large dog to throw in for good measure), I am very used to hearing the phrase ‘you don’t look old enough to have children’. Does it get on my nerves? Of course it does.  I don’t often dwell on it as the vast majority of comments passed are those of a certain age: 80 years old and over. It is mainly the community patients who ask about my family and well, maybe I’m asking for it when I let them know that I’m married with 2.4 children.

Today though, felt different. I was on the beach attempting to

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wear my kids and the dog out. It was a final and very desperate attempt to stop them bickering with each other on the last two days of the Easter holidays and it had worked. Hurrah, I had achieved some peace for the day!

So when my not so well behaved dog who will leg it in a split second of being off the lead, starts chasing a puppy across the beach; I turn into that embarrassing, stressed parent who’s frantically shouting and clambering across the sand in wellies and a woolly hat. Thankfully the lady dog owner was more than happy for my dog to

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‘wear out her dog’ and the typical dog walking chit chat fires up whilst the rain is lashing into my face and I am politely edging away. Until that moment where she says “Oh wow, you look about 12 years old and you have two children and a dog!”

That’s when I start turning into my usual defensive self. Except for the fact that I apparently look even younger than the 80 years olds had me believe, 12. Really? I realise at this moment that it has become second nature to immediately tell complete strangers that I am actually 27 and happily

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married, thank you very much. Which, by the way, becomes quite tedious when you say it 4-5 times in your working day.

Perhaps my approach should different. Who doesn’t want to look youthful as they edge closer and closer the big 3-0? I mean, I am very lucky in that I don’t use expensive creams (can’t afford such luxuries) and I certainly don’t have a daily ritual to keep my skin as soft as a baby’s bottom (who has time for that?). Good genes is the only thing that I can account for and one day, I am sure I’ll be truly grateful to my

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parents for this wonderful inheritance.

One day I may be able to reply to such comments with pride that I’m looking so young with two gorgeous kids and a handsome dog running around, and sometimes I do feel this way. I am proud to be young, successful and a dab hand at juggling the kids, dog, husband and housework.

But, I’m pretty sure I’m not okay with looking 12. Not just yet.

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As a young mum of two children (and a large dog to throw in for good measure), I am very used to hearing the phrase ‘you don’t look old enough to have children’. Does it get on my nerves? Of course it does.  I don’t often dwell on it as the vast majority of comments passed are those of a certain age: 80 years old and over. It is mainly the community patients who ask about my family and well, maybe I’m asking for it when I let them know that I’m married with 2.4 children.

Today though, felt different. I was on the beach attempting to wear my kids and the dog out. It was a final and very desperate attempt to stop them bickering with each other on the last two days of the Easter holidays and it had worked. Hurrah, I had achieved some peace for the day!

So when my not so well behaved dog who will leg it in a split second of being off the lead, starts chasing a puppy across the beach; I turn into that embarrassing, stressed parent who’s frantically shouting and clambering across the sand in wellies and a woolly hat. Thankfully the lady dog owner was more than happy for my dog to ‘wear out her dog’ and the typical dog walking chit chat fires up whilst the rain is lashing into my face and I am politely edging away. Until that moment where she says “Oh wow, you look about 12 years old and you have two children and a dog!”

That’s when I start turning into my usual defensive self. Except for the fact that I apparently look even younger than the 80 years olds had me believe, 12. Really? I realise at this moment that it has become second nature to immediately tell complete strangers that I am actually 27 and happily married, thank you very much. Which, by the way, becomes quite tedious when you say it 4-5 times in your working day.

Perhaps my approach should different. Who doesn’t want to look youthful as they edge closer and closer the big 3-0? I mean, I am very lucky in that I don’t use expensive creams (can’t afford such luxuries) and I certainly don’t have a daily ritual to keep my skin as soft as a baby’s bottom (who has time for that?). Good genes is the only thing that I can account for and one day, I am sure I’ll be truly grateful to my parents for this wonderful inheritance.

One day I may be able to reply to such comments with pride that I’m looking so young with two gorgeous kids and a handsome dog running around, and sometimes I do feel this way. I am proud to be young, successful and a dab hand at juggling the kids, dog, husband and housework.

But, I’m pretty sure I’m not okay with looking 12. Not just yet.

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Mother to two little Fish's, community nurse on the Kent Coast. Wife to the most patient man and when I get a few minutes in between juggling kids and work, I love to crochet.

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