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Playing out – be careful what you wish for
So he did start to go up to
This catalogue of events has taken place only over the last two weeks! And it’s not including all of the girlfriend/boyfriend business that goes on in the park and on Instagram. When I say ”goes on”, I mean they play on their
Each day that he came home with a different story, I felt more and more uneasy. What was I doing to him? Had I pushed him too much to play out? Was he really a homeboy? Was I making him feel it’s OK to be beaten up just so he can have mates at the park? Should I stop him going? Were they all bad news?
We’ve had two sessions at the park now where he’s come home with no fights! This is what I call a result! I’ve sorted it in my head after talking to some friends of mine:-
He’s still talking to me
He’s not upset.
It’s the pecking order thing. They have to work out who’s who. (I’m a girl, we didn’t do quite the same things when I was growing up!) I’ve got to let HIM work it out.
Having a fight at the park is still better than festering in his room playing X Box!
We no longer have dinner altogether every night. It’s kept warm for him and he fills up on snacks beforehand too. But this is OK. It’s part of him growing up. I can accept that. For now…
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We live on the edge of a busy town, but right by the shore and with lots of green space around us. There is a little park behind us and Ben’s old infant school in a nice estate. I’ve been desperate to get Ben “playing out” for ages now. “Just go up the park after school, see who’s there,” I’d say. Occasionally he would, but he informed me “I’m more of a homeboy!” No you’re bloody well not, not if I have anything to do with it. You will not come home after school and fester in your bedroom playing the X Box.
- He’s still talking to me about it. The time to worry is when he won’t share.
- He’s not upset.
- It’s the pecking order thing. They have to work out who’s who. (I’m a girl, we didn’t do quite the same things when I was growing up!) I’ve got to let HIM work it out.
- Having a fight at the park is still better than festering in his room playing X Box!