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Adulting isn’t an easy business. Doing it as a couple can make it seem easier (if you make like the PM and stick to your pink and blue jobs!) but doing it as parents is like wading through a ball pit full of pritt-stick. Add a kid or two (or three if you’re superhuman) into the mix and it’s easy to get bogged down with the day to day world of parenting and working and adulting and working and parenting…repeat to fade.
But that’s what I am determined not to do- repeat to fade. I struggled with Post Natal Depression after having my second
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child and the one thing that has continually lifted me from the ball pit of despair has been taking time back for myself.
This year my husband and I boarded a flight and left the country without our children. They were being spoilt rotten at their grandparents for the weekend whilst we returned to one of my favourite cities in the world Amsterdam.
I flew with hand-luggage only. I stayed up late. I slept. I ate and drank well. I rested. I took time to get ready to go out. I felt like myself. Not just Mummy, but me.
Yes I felt guilty. Yes we
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missed the children and we talked about them most of the time. But we also talked about our plans for redecorating the house and holidays we are planning and places we want to go.
Giving myself my undivided attention was exactly what I needed to feel like me again.
After the success of this mini-break we are already planning another trip away without the children for early 2018. Planning time for myself, (and not feeling too guilty about this) will help to avoid that repeat to fade.
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Rachel Cole - 19 Dec 17
Adulting isn’t an easy business. Doing it as a couple can make it seem easier (if you make like the PM and stick to your pink and blue jobs!) but doing it as parents is like wading through a ball pit full of pritt-stick. Add a kid or two (or three if you’re superhuman) into the mix and it’s easy to get bogged down with the day to day world of parenting and working and adulting and working and parenting…repeat to fade.
But that’s what I am determined not to do- repeat to fade. I struggled with Post Natal Depression after having my second child and the one thing that has continually lifted me from the ball pit of despair has been taking time back for myself.
This year my husband and I boarded a flight and left the country without our children. They were being spoilt rotten at their grandparents for the weekend whilst we returned to one of my favourite cities in the world Amsterdam.
I flew with hand-luggage only. I stayed up late. I slept. I ate and drank well. I rested. I took time to get ready to go out. I felt like myself. Not just Mummy, but me.
Yes I felt guilty. Yes we missed the children and we talked about them most of the time. But we also talked about our plans for redecorating the house and holidays we are planning and places we want to go.
Giving myself my undivided attention was exactly what I needed to feel like me again.
After the success of this mini-break we are already planning another trip away without the children for early 2018. Planning time for myself, (and not feeling too guilty about this) will help to avoid that repeat to fade.
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