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Sometimes it’s hard…. to be a woman.
This was, as always, greeted by some with the usual rolling of the eyes, the classic ’Where’s International Men’s Day??’ (19th November actually) , or the ever so lovely ’what do you need a special day for?’
Not that we really have to justify it, I think it speaks for itself, but I have found that over the last few years my inner feminist is being woken. Maybe its because I’m older, or because I now have a daughter.. who knows, but I do find myself pondering a lot more about us
So….the other night we were watching ’The Affair’, which, if you haven’t seen it, get watching!!! Its A-mazing and SO clever.
Anyway…. there was this scene with a male teacher and a female Pupil and, I can’t remember the exact words, but basically the teacher asked the pupil if she really felt intimidated in his class.
Her reply, was a simple laugh followed by ’I’m a woman, I always feel intimidated’.
This kind of floored me. Something so simple and it was like a bloody Eureka! moment!!
I just thought, oh my god she is
Yes, we do… we totally do!! Why had this never occurred to me before?? Why was I only just coming to this conclusion now? I’m 36! I’ve been a woman for 36 years, surely it can’t be that big a deal then if I haven’t even really noticed…. can it?
Well the truth is, it wasn’t so much that I hadn’t noticed it, it was more that I had just accepted it.
I accepted the fact that in certain situations I would feel intimidated, because I was a woman.
Shit!
Think about it though. All those job interviews, driving lessons or
How did these situations make you feel?
Suddenly aware of your female vulnerability no doubt.
I’m not saying that a bloke wouldn’t be intimidated on a train full of drunk women on a hen do, of course they would, I just wonder if it
If my husband gets a cab home from a night out, does he suddenly start to sober up when he realises he is the last drop off? Does he look for his keys and his phone and make sure they are in his hand… just in case?!
No he does not, he continues to ram his takeaway chicken down his neck and talk utter nonsense to the driver.
The other night I went to my friends for dinner. Its a 15 minute walk away. Fine during the day but after dark…. on your own? Seemed
Now I know that I am slightly paranoid, have watched FAR too many horror films and sometimes my imagination runs WILD, but…. I just really didn’t fancy the walk home on my own. Believe me we deliberated about 20 different ways of getting me home, and in the end we decided I would just drive and not drink!
However…..had this been my husband, it would not have even been an issue. He would have walked round to his friends, had too many beers and walked home, Job done.
Now, before everyone gets all hot under the collar, I am
This is merely my musings, provoked by a simple statement from a TV show, and something I have thought a lot about since.
I don’t think there is any ’solution’ to this little issue. I think that unfortunately, this is the way things are and this is how it will probably always be.
I would like to say that this vulnerability,
So the next time someone rolls their eyes at ’International Women’s Day’ or anything similar, feel free to remind them of any of the above points, not to mention ALL the other bullsh*t we have had to put up with over the years, simply for being female.
Remind them that
Mum_bore x