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THE ALTERNATIVE CLUB NIGHT

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Rolling in at 2am seemed like an excellent idea last night. Although, as I am currently downing my second pint of coffee this morning and the chances of a nap today are slim to none, it may prove to have been a bad idea by early afternoon. However, defying the odds and logistics of getting out of the house I have enjoyed a brilliant evening out until the wee hours at a club. Or more specifically, Book Club.

Ok, I am the first to admit I haven’t been to an actual nightclub for a few years. Now reflecting on my clubbing years; from the super trendy up

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in London opening nights, to the dark and sticky indie clubs, to Bognors only night spot every Thursday and Saturday embracing the Cheese (aka the uni years), I definitely think Book Club is the way forward as the alternative club night.

First of all there is no dress code. I don’t just mean on the door or among the group you are going with (uniform black trousers and a sparkly top – also the uni years). It’s more the actual effort of thinking in advance about what you might want to wear for a night out. The personal getting ready time and

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preparation required to leave the house.

The great news is no one at Book Club cares what I’m wearing. I don’t care what they are wearing. I don’t care what I am wearing. No getting ready faff required – phew.

The next bonus is the drinks are cheap. This is not because you have been flirting with the barman or are drinking whatever poisonous sugary grim pop is on the 2 for 1 deal because you’re on a budget (Bognor has a lot to answer for). Although our Book Club is of course focused on discussing the latest book we have been reading, there

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is a bring your own bottle option. Or not. It’s fun either way and there’s no queuing at the bar either….

And, there is always loo roll. Perhaps I am more distressed by my years in Bognor than I realise with this one but loo roll is important and at Book Club the facilities are always excellent. Toilet roll and soap aplenty and no one is trying to sell me perfume or a lolly when I go for a wee.

However, my favourite thing about Book Club is that the pressure is off. It’s ok to like reading. It’s ok to be loud or to be quiet. It’s ok eat

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all the crisps or drink too much wine. It’s ok vent about how stressful the day has been. It’s ok to talk too much and forget to consider you should have left about an hour ago. No one cares if you have a big or small house, if you have polished your picture frames or if your wine glasses all match. Disagreements about whether we have all liked a book or not have not lead to anyone running off the cry in the toilet (not yet anyway).

What is brilliant is that it’s not really about venue at all but quite simply enjoying the friendship and company

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of some rather fab ladies and being able to be yourself. Plus being accepted for just being you. Dim lighting, painful shoes or a spare 3 hours before leaving the house are not needed.  Having a good time is not attached to a location or list of requirements but rather to the people you choose to spend some rather precious time out with and who want to spend it with you.

I like to think there may still be a rare occasion where I find myself venturing back into a nightclub at some point in the future (sadly there is no dance floor at Book Club so

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nightclubs still have their uses) but whether this will beat the alternative (Book) club night I’m not so sure. Now, where is the coffee……
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- 7 May 16

Rolling in at 2am seemed like an excellent idea last night. Although, as I am currently downing my second pint of coffee this morning and the chances of a nap today are slim to none, it may prove to have been a bad idea by early afternoon. However, defying the odds and logistics of getting out of the house I have enjoyed a brilliant evening out until the wee hours at a club. Or more specifically, Book Club.

Ok, I am the first to admit I haven’t been to an actual nightclub for a few years. Now reflecting on my clubbing years; from the super trendy up in London opening nights, to the dark and sticky indie clubs, to Bognors only night spot every Thursday and Saturday embracing the Cheese (aka the uni years), I definitely think Book Club is the way forward as the alternative club night.

First of all there is no dress code. I don’t just mean on the door or among the group you are going with (uniform black trousers and a sparkly top – also the uni years). It’s more the actual effort of thinking in advance about what you might want to wear for a night out. The personal getting ready time and preparation required to leave the house.

The great news is no one at Book Club cares what I’m wearing. I don’t care what they are wearing. I don’t care what I am wearing. No getting ready faff required – phew.

The next bonus is the drinks are cheap. This is not because you have been flirting with the barman or are drinking whatever poisonous sugary grim pop is on the 2 for 1 deal because you’re on a budget (Bognor has a lot to answer for). Although our Book Club is of course focused on discussing the latest book we have been reading, there is a bring your own bottle option. Or not. It’s fun either way and there’s no queuing at the bar either….

And, there is always loo roll. Perhaps I am more distressed by my years in Bognor than I realise with this one but loo roll is important and at Book Club the facilities are always excellent. Toilet roll and soap aplenty and no one is trying to sell me perfume or a lolly when I go for a wee.

However, my favourite thing about Book Club is that the pressure is off. It’s ok to like reading. It’s ok to be loud or to be quiet. It’s ok eat all the crisps or drink too much wine. It’s ok vent about how stressful the day has been. It’s ok to talk too much and forget to consider you should have left about an hour ago. No one cares if you have a big or small house, if you have polished your picture frames or if your wine glasses all match. Disagreements about whether we have all liked a book or not have not lead to anyone running off the cry in the toilet (not yet anyway).

What is brilliant is that it’s not really about venue at all but quite simply enjoying the friendship and company of some rather fab ladies and being able to be yourself. Plus being accepted for just being you. Dim lighting, painful shoes or a spare 3 hours before leaving the house are not needed.  Having a good time is not attached to a location or list of requirements but rather to the people you choose to spend some rather precious time out with and who want to spend it with you.

I like to think there may still be a rare occasion where I find myself venturing back into a nightclub at some point in the future (sadly there is no dance floor at Book Club so nightclubs still have their uses) but whether this will beat the alternative (Book) club night I’m not so sure. Now, where is the coffee……

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Mum of fabulous children, wife to one very patient husband. My blogs are about anything that has popped into my head as it occurs to me. I have aspirations to write more, that are slowly turning into reality. A lover of the simple things in life - good friends, good food, good wine and of course family.

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