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My husband will always be my oldest and biggest child who requires the most supervision.

THIS IS A LIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have heard this so many times, I have probably said this a few times as well.  I am guilty as I am sure many of us are of not looking at what our partners do for us.  We are guilty of this when we don’t have children but throw children into the mix and what your partner does totally goes out of the window.

I feel that sometimes I can become so self absorbed in my own life and all the things I do that I actually

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forget that I have someone else there helping me.  When I sit and look at what my husband actually does to help me and the family I feel considerably guilty at the fact that, whilst I am moaning about how hard things are, how I have to do everything he is quietly plodding along doing quite a lot.

Now I know I am one of the lucky ones, I know that there are useless husbands, wives, boyfriends and girlfriends out there and that not everyone is lucky enough to have such a hands on hubby as I have.  Don’t get me wrong he doesn’t always get it right,

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he doesn’t seem to ’see’ the mess that I do and thinks that the shower is self cleaning but then I get it wrong quite a lot too.  My hubby is the most wonderful hands on father.  After a hard days work he comes home and plays with our children, he bathes them and gets them ready for bed and every night he makes sure he reads to them and sings them to sleep.  For this alone I am extremely grateful and feel so lucky that my children have this.

Not only is he there for them but he is a massive support to me.  Helping me through the battle of PND,

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dealing with me when I have massive meltdowns, crying fits or temper tantrums.  He calms me down and gets me thinking straight and helps me put my life into perspective and order.  Although housework sometimes passes him (I sometimes think we would have to be living in huge piles of crap before he notices that perhaps the floor needs hoovering) he cooks almost every single night, getting out of bed ridiculously early to prepare the meal for that night and on tirelessly searching for recipes that our fussy children will eat.  For this I will love him
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for all of eternity because as we know cooking with a small baby attached to you, a 3 year old trying to ’help’ and a 12 year old doing everything in his power to push you to the edge, can sometimes be stressful.

So I am one of the lucky ones, I have a wonderful husband who loves me just as I am, mental bits and all.  Who makes me feel special, wanted, loved, desired and dare I say sexy even though my body is worn and tired from having kids.  Who is a wonderful father to our children and in turn has helped me become a better mother. Who supports

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me in everything I do no matter how crazy he thinks it might be and who without a shadow of a doubt is the star of the team that is he and me.

Never again will I use that phrase.  My husband isn’t my biggest and oldest child.  The truth is he is my rock, my number one, my other half, my biggest champion and my bestest friend.

I would, quite simply, be lost without you.

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- 18 Feb 16

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My husband will always be my oldest and biggest child who requires the most supervision.

THIS IS A LIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have heard this so many times, I have probably said this a few times as well.  I am guilty as I am sure many of us are of not looking at what our partners do for us.  We are guilty of this when we don’t have children but throw children into the mix and what your partner does totally goes out of the window.

I feel that sometimes I can become so self absorbed in my own life and all the things I do that I actually forget that I have someone else there helping me.  When I sit and look at what my husband actually does to help me and the family I feel considerably guilty at the fact that, whilst I am moaning about how hard things are, how I have to do everything he is quietly plodding along doing quite a lot.

Now I know I am one of the lucky ones, I know that there are useless husbands, wives, boyfriends and girlfriends out there and that not everyone is lucky enough to have such a hands on hubby as I have.  Don’t get me wrong he doesn’t always get it right, he doesn’t seem to ‘see’ the mess that I do and thinks that the shower is self cleaning but then I get it wrong quite a lot too.  My hubby is the most wonderful hands on father.  After a hard days work he comes home and plays with our children, he bathes them and gets them ready for bed and every night he makes sure he reads to them and sings them to sleep.  For this alone I am extremely grateful and feel so lucky that my children have this.

Not only is he there for them but he is a massive support to me.  Helping me through the battle of PND, dealing with me when I have massive meltdowns, crying fits or temper tantrums.  He calms me down and gets me thinking straight and helps me put my life into perspective and order.  Although housework sometimes passes him (I sometimes think we would have to be living in huge piles of crap before he notices that perhaps the floor needs hoovering) he cooks almost every single night, getting out of bed ridiculously early to prepare the meal for that night and on tirelessly searching for recipes that our fussy children will eat.  For this I will love him for all of eternity because as we know cooking with a small baby attached to you, a 3 year old trying to ‘help’ and a 12 year old doing everything in his power to push you to the edge, can sometimes be stressful.

So I am one of the lucky ones, I have a wonderful husband who loves me just as I am, mental bits and all.  Who makes me feel special, wanted, loved, desired and dare I say sexy even though my body is worn and tired from having kids.  Who is a wonderful father to our children and in turn has helped me become a better mother. Who supports me in everything I do no matter how crazy he thinks it might be and who without a shadow of a doubt is the star of the team that is he and me.

Never again will I use that phrase.  My husband isn’t my biggest and oldest child.  The truth is he is my rock, my number one, my other half, my biggest champion and my bestest friend.

I would, quite simply, be lost without you.

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