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The future I’m trying to change..
It’s the weekend, you’re out with your beautiful kids. Maybe you’re visiting a café or having lunch in a restaurant, watching a movie at the local cinema, maybe you’re doing some shopping… you get the idea.
You’re tired, they’re whining, and at some point during the day you and they are probably going to need to visit the toilet – we all need to pee!
So you take your kids & pile into the nearest toilets, next to you in the queue is another Mum. She is not that different to you, she is also tired and fed up,
You feel a bit sorry for her and try not to make eye contact in case she tries to talk to you, that would be awkward.
A cubicle becomes free and you quickly pull your kids inside, help them use the toilet, pull their pants up, make them wash their hands and then you leave.
The other Mum is still there
She’s struggling. She’s heart broken because her son, who is the same age as yours, can’t stand up, he can’t even sit up. She
She shuts the door behind her and squeezes in next to it. And then, as she does every time her son needs the toilet, she tries to wrack her brains for an ingenious way to make this easier. But right here, in this toilet, there are no ingenious contraptions to make this easier or safer.
So she braces herself to have whats left of her already shattered heart, broken a little bit more.
She takes a mat out of her bag and
The mat that is on the toilet floor.
The toilet floor that scientists say has 77,000 germs and viruses.
The toilet floor that she can see is dirty, has pee splashed on it as well as muddy footprints and some soggy toilet roll.
The toilet floor that she wouldn’t lie on and wishes more than anything that her son didn’t have to lie on either.
But she has no choice, her son can’t stand up, he can’t even sit up. He can only lie
So he has to lie on that toilet floor so she can remove his nappy and lift him onto the toilet. She has to kneel on that floor in her only favourite jeans, the ones she has to wash every time she takes her son out because the knees are covered in thousands of germs – she’s washed the so many times they’re falling apart.
Her precious son has to lie on that floor with all those germs and viruses despite his low immune system, something that is part of
She finishes dressing him, lifts him back into his wheelchair. Her back is aching from lifting 3 ½ stone of dead weight but she’s used to it. She knows one day she won’t be able to lift him anymore and then he won’t have the luxury of being able to use a toilet, he will have no choice but to sit in his own mess the whole time they’re out.
Unlike her, she can use any toilet
She folds the mat and puts it back in her bag, along with numerous germs and viruses that are now going to come home with her.
You’ve probably forgotten about your visit to the toilets already, it’s an irrelevant part of your day. But for that other Mum it’s been the most stressful part of their outing so far, and one she knows she will have to repeat in a few hours unless she cuts their day short and goes home. Or decides to use the back of their van in the car park
That other Mum is me
I’m just like you, proud of my son, tired from lack of sleep and unsure of what to cook for dinner tonight.
My son is William
He is 7, he has quadriplegic cerebral palsy and is one of the happiest and funniest boys you’ll ever meet.
He wishes he didn’t have to lie on that dirty mat on that dirty floor with soggy
He’s my baby, my precious little boy who makes me smile every day and who right now I am hoping doesn’t get covered in sewage if god forbid the toilet starts to over flow now I’ve flushed it.
My heart is already fragile but it breaks a little more every time.
Before William was born it never occurred to me that this was an issue. That over ½ million people have this struggle every time they need the toilet. Why would it? It didn’t affect me, or anyone I loved.
Now it does.
Now I know
I want my son and 1/2 a million other disabled people to have the luxury of using a toilet wherever they are visiting, just like you do, without having to lie on a toilet floor.
Imagine my son in a few years when he’s a teenager. Maybe he’s visiting the cinema or a pub with his friends, he’s spent
We are all only one accident away from having to lie on a toilet floor ourselves, please sign the petition, share this information, tell people about these struggles and help me change this for ALL of us. If you are in a position to help make changes PLEASE
Petition link : bit.ly/toilets4all (This petition was created by another passionate Mum, Lorna Fillingham)