My 15 month old is now in nursery 3 mornings a week and my 3 year old is at playgroup for 2 of those mornings for 2 hours so this ’me’ time has given me space to think about things which would be potentially dangerous if I wasn’t so goddamn tired!
I’ve recently set up a WI in the area I live so that took up the majority of my time but now that is up and running, I can concentrate on new projects. I’ve got a couple of ideas but quite honestly I want to just spend a bit of time thinking about what I actually want (all thanks to Helen’s post What
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Do I Actually Want?) especially as it’s nearly my birthday!
I would like a holiday in the sun but this is completely unrealistic as it would involved 3 out of 4 of us getting passports, major body overhaul, holiday wear for the kids and money in order to actually afford all of the mentioned!
I wouldn’t mind a Nutribullet, we have a juicer but it remains on top of the cupboard until the summer when we are all more keen to drink green juice. With a Nutribullet, I would make dips that I know the children will eat, smoothies for special treats and
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frappes for me! Lack of space in the kitchen is the only factor against getting a new shiny kitchen gadget. Oh and money.
A more realistic want would be to have a full night of sleep. Don’t get me wrong I really love co-sleeping and breastfeeding but I also really love sleep! Please do not talk to me about moving my 15 month old into her own room, I love nothing more than lying next to her and feeding her to sleep, smelling her and feeling her breath on my cheek. All I am asking for is just ONE night of unbroken sleep, I don’t want to go anywhere
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(although that would be nice!) I just want her to be completely settled and for us all to be completely rested in the morning and not wake up in a mood resenting anyone for having more sleep than them. I hope you’re reading this Satsuma because it would be THE best birthday present for your mama!
I keep thinking that it’s selfish to think about what I want and in reality my wants are unrealistic so I don’t write them. Perhaps I should start putting some of them down and sharing my goals…
Apologies for the mundane post for my first blog, I’m
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most likely going to be using this as a place to think out loud!
My 15 month old is now in nursery 3 mornings a week and my 3 year old is at playgroup for 2 of those mornings for 2 hours so this ‘me’ time has given me space to think about things which would be potentially dangerous if I wasn’t so goddamn tired!
I’ve recently set up a WI in the area I live so that took up the majority of my time but now that is up and running, I can concentrate on new projects. I’ve got a couple of ideas but quite honestly I want to just spend a bit of time thinking about what I actually want (all thanks to Helen’s post What Do I Actually Want?) especially as it’s nearly my birthday!
I would like a holiday in the sun but this is completely unrealistic as it would involved 3 out of 4 of us getting passports, major body overhaul, holiday wear for the kids and money in order to actually afford all of the mentioned!
I wouldn’t mind a Nutribullet, we have a juicer but it remains on top of the cupboard until the summer when we are all more keen to drink green juice. With a Nutribullet, I would make dips that I know the children will eat, smoothies for special treats and frappes for me! Lack of space in the kitchen is the only factor against getting a new shiny kitchen gadget. Oh and money.
A more realistic want would be to have a full night of sleep. Don’t get me wrong I really love co-sleeping and breastfeeding but I also really love sleep! Please do not talk to me about moving my 15 month old into her own room, I love nothing more than lying next to her and feeding her to sleep, smelling her and feeling her breath on my cheek. All I am asking for is just ONE night of unbroken sleep, I don’t want to go anywhere (although that would be nice!) I just want her to be completely settled and for us all to be completely rested in the morning and not wake up in a mood resenting anyone for having more sleep than them. I hope you’re reading this Satsuma because it would be THE best birthday present for your mama!
I keep thinking that it’s selfish to think about what I want and in reality my wants are unrealistic so I don’t write them. Perhaps I should start putting some of them down and sharing my goals…
Apologies for the mundane post for my first blog, I’m most likely going to be using this as a place to think out loud!
Phoebe xx
‘I want’ always reminds me of this madam!
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