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As a young adult of the 00’s, I spent most of my 20’s with dragons den syndrome- desperately trying to think of an idea that could propel me into wealth and fortune. I knew I’d be a stutterer though- I hate public speaking and so even if I had a worthy idea to present to the den of criticism, I’d wither into a nervous wreck and be blubbering into my balance sheet in the lift back down to reality.
So I constantly looked at other people, what did they have that I could learn to be? To have the confidence to ‘find and follow a passion’
It
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took me until my 30’s to realise that’s not how it’s done. Instagram is amazing for that- it shows women trying things out, doing things that aren’t the obvious and for the good of others.
I realised you don’t get a passion. In 2014 my husband convinced me we should have children. I was putting off even thinking about it as I was totally terrified of the ‘birth bit’. Having them and keeping them alive didn’t even enter my mind, it was pregnancy and ‘pushing something out’ that made me think maybe I didn’t need children
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anyway.
We pulled the goalie and the inevitable happened, and I panicked. There must be something out there that can make this all just happen really quickly- c-sections and epidurals became my source of comfort that it would all be ok.
Then I found hypnobirthing, and even though I didn’t realise it then, my passion was born. Learning the relaxation techniques and understanding what was happening to my body led me to have a home birth with my little girl in 2015 and my son on NYE 2017. Something that was totally unimaginable in my labour-phobic
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head.
The night before my son was born, I was writing my business plan for my online hypnobirthing business @themindfulbirthgroup . I started feeling mild surges as I was writing my reasons for starting the business- pretty crazy now I think about it! But it wasn’t pressurised work, it was all coming very naturally. I took a few weeks off from working on the material but I found myself wanting to write again rather than watching trashy TV, which just showed me again that this wasn’t work, this was a passion that I might be able to to make something
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of.
The Mindful Birth Group is now officially launching on the 26th May, and I still can’t quite believe it’s happening. It still doesn’t feel like work, which makes me think this might actually turn out to be a success. I’m very motivated to make hypnobirthing accessible to any mother to be- so the course is all online, making it super flexible in terms of time and access, and it’s low cost. I know that it’s not always easy to grasp hypnobirthing concepts and so I also include a 1:1 video call session, to make sure parents feel 100%
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confident to use everything they have learned. I’m also a huge believer in flexi-working, and how it can benefit our society so I intend on pursuing that area too and giving other qualified teachers an opportunity to do just that, with support from TMBG.
Looking back, I would never have imagined I would be starting a business focused on one of the very few things I was scared of in life. It just shows that listening to your gut and embracing life’s twists and turns rather than blocking them out can lead to very unlikely passions.
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Emiliana Hall - 29 Mar 18
As a young adult of the 00’s, I spent most of my 20’s with dragons den syndrome- desperately trying to think of an idea that could propel me into wealth and fortune. I knew I’d be a stutterer though- I hate public speaking and so even if I had a worthy idea to present to the den of criticism, I’d wither into a nervous wreck and be blubbering into my balance sheet in the lift back down to reality.
So I constantly looked at other people, what did they have that I could learn to be? To have the confidence to ‘find and follow a passion’
It took me until my 30’s to realise that’s not how it’s done. Instagram is amazing for that- it shows women trying things out, doing things that aren’t the obvious and for the good of others.
I realised you don’t get a passion. In 2014 my husband convinced me we should have children. I was putting off even thinking about it as I was totally terrified of the ‘birth bit’. Having them and keeping them alive didn’t even enter my mind, it was pregnancy and ‘pushing something out’ that made me think maybe I didn’t need children anyway.
We pulled the goalie and the inevitable happened, and I panicked. There must be something out there that can make this all just happen really quickly- c-sections and epidurals became my source of comfort that it would all be ok.
Then I found hypnobirthing, and even though I didn’t realise it then, my passion was born. Learning the relaxation techniques and understanding what was happening to my body led me to have a home birth with my little girl in 2015 and my son on NYE 2017. Something that was totally unimaginable in my labour-phobic head.
The night before my son was born, I was writing my business plan for my online hypnobirthing business @themindfulbirthgroup . I started feeling mild surges as I was writing my reasons for starting the business- pretty crazy now I think about it! But it wasn’t pressurised work, it was all coming very naturally. I took a few weeks off from working on the material but I found myself wanting to write again rather than watching trashy TV, which just showed me again that this wasn’t work, this was a passion that I might be able to to make something of.
The Mindful Birth Group is now officially launching on the 26th May, and I still can’t quite believe it’s happening. It still doesn’t feel like work, which makes me think this might actually turn out to be a success. I’m very motivated to make hypnobirthing accessible to any mother to be- so the course is all online, making it super flexible in terms of time and access, and it’s low cost. I know that it’s not always easy to grasp hypnobirthing concepts and so I also include a 1:1 video call session, to make sure parents feel 100% confident to use everything they have learned. I’m also a huge believer in flexi-working, and how it can benefit our society so I intend on pursuing that area too and giving other qualified teachers an opportunity to do just that, with support from TMBG.
Looking back, I would never have imagined I would be starting a business focused on one of the very few things I was scared of in life. It just shows that listening to your gut and embracing life’s twists and turns rather than blocking them out can lead to very unlikely passions.
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