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Weighing the baby and my anxiety

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My beautiful baby boy will be turning 1 this coming Friday! Hooray, I made it through the first year of his life, which has been an emotional roller coaster to say the least.

I’ve had the normal first time mum worries, ’Am I doing this right?’, ’Why won’t you sleep?’ Etc. The most worrying part of being a first time mum for me has been ’Why is my baby so small?, Why is he not a chubby little thing?, ’Am I feeding you enough?’.

Both myself and my husband are of Pakistani background and have been told since he was born that because of our

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stature, he’s on the smaller end of the percentile. Baby boy was born 6lb and 1oz, he was combi fed initially and then moved on to formula just before turning 4 months.

My worry only started when I took him to get weighed when he was four months old and the first thing the health visitor said was ’you’re a very narrow baby’!!!! What? What a stupid thing to say to a new mum, especially when she has been an emotional wreck for the past 16 weeks. Each time I took him to get weighed, I was nervous.. I didn’t want them to think I was neglecting my

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child and not feeding him. Hell, I was so focused on his eating that I would totally forget to eat myself!  To add to my growing anxiety about my baby’s weight, my father asked ’are you not feeding him enough milk’ and then my mother in law said ’you both aren’t looking after him properly, leave him with me!’

At no point after spending the first initial month at my parents was I offered any help from my own family or my in laws. It was a depressing time.

I took my baby boy to the GP and visited a paediatrician – both confirmed they were not

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worried about his weight, as he looks to be an active, healthy baby.

Right now, I am content with how he is growing and he is meeting his milestones on time. It’s just the fact that as a new mum, regardless of how you go about looking after your child, there will always be someone to make stupid comments which fester in your mind and eats at you. As long as the baby is happy, why must these negative comments be said? And if they’re so concerned about me not looking after him properly, then they should visit more often and help out – that subject is

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for a completely new blog post!

 

 

 

 

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- 2 Feb 16

My beautiful baby boy will be turning 1 this coming Friday! Hooray, I made it through the first year of his life, which has been an emotional roller coaster to say the least.

I’ve had the normal first time mum worries, ‘Am I doing this right?’, ‘Why won’t you sleep?’ Etc. The most worrying part of being a first time mum for me has been ‘Why is my baby so small?, Why is he not a chubby little thing?, ‘Am I feeding you enough?’.

Both myself and my husband are of Pakistani background and have been told since he was born that because of our stature, he’s on the smaller end of the percentile. Baby boy was born 6lb and 1oz, he was combi fed initially and then moved on to formula just before turning 4 months.

My worry only started when I took him to get weighed when he was four months old and the first thing the health visitor said was ‘you’re a very narrow baby’!!!! What? What a stupid thing to say to a new mum, especially when she has been an emotional wreck for the past 16 weeks. Each time I took him to get weighed, I was nervous.. I didn’t want them to think I was neglecting my child and not feeding him. Hell, I was so focused on his eating that I would totally forget to eat myself!  To add to my growing anxiety about my baby’s weight, my father asked ‘are you not feeding him enough milk’ and then my mother in law said ‘you both aren’t looking after him properly, leave him with me!’

At no point after spending the first initial month at my parents was I offered any help from my own family or my in laws. It was a depressing time.

I took my baby boy to the GP and visited a paediatrician – both confirmed they were not worried about his weight, as he looks to be an active, healthy baby.

Right now, I am content with how he is growing and he is meeting his milestones on time. It’s just the fact that as a new mum, regardless of how you go about looking after your child, there will always be someone to make stupid comments which fester in your mind and eats at you. As long as the baby is happy, why must these negative comments be said? And if they’re so concerned about me not looking after him properly, then they should visit more often and help out – that subject is for a completely new blog post!

 

 

 

 

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Always the worrier. Now a new mum, my worrying is never ending!

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