What to say and what not to say to a pregnant women
1
What to say
How are you feeling? I understand why friends who have never had kids and have never asked how you are feeling before don’t ask, they just wouldn’t think too. I was the same before kids, you have no idea. But this is a top tip. Maybe even call or text to ask if you haven’t seen them for a while.
You look great. Always compliment a pregnant women. I seem to get loads more comments on how I look really nice when I’m pregnant – its great! Some friends who would never usually pay a compliment seem to shower me in them . Maybe
SelfishMother.com
2
because you look the size of a house and they are trying to make you feel better – who cares, I’ll take what I can get!
Are you free this weekend? Don’t stop asking a friend to do stuff when they are pregnant, this is when they need the most invitations to feel that people care and are supportive. Maybe suggest a lunch, the cinema or a something cultural on a weekend afternoon.
What not to say
You look soooo tired.
Christ you are massive.
Don’t tell them that story of how your friend’s 5 month scan showed up deformities (told to
SelfishMother.com
3
me a week before my 5 month scan), or how your friends baby died at 38 weeks (told to me when I was 28 weeks pregnant) or how their baby died during childbirth (when 3 months pregnant). I know these things pop to mind when discussing babies, pregnancy and birth with a pregnant women but trust me this is not your audience.
How much weight have you put on so far?
Can you take this box to the stationary room please.
It’s your turn to wash up.
SelfishMother.com
This blog was originally posted on SelfishMother.com - why not sign up & share what's on your mind, too?
Why not write for Selfish Mother, too? You can for free and post immediately.
We regularly share posts on @SelfishMother Instagram and Facebook :)
Janet Stone - 11 Sep 16
What to say
How are you feeling? I understand why friends who have never had kids and have never asked how you are feeling before don’t ask, they just wouldn’t think too. I was the same before kids, you have no idea. But this is a top tip. Maybe even call or text to ask if you haven’t seen them for a while.
You look great. Always compliment a pregnant women. I seem to get loads more comments on how I look really nice when I’m pregnant – its great! Some friends who would never usually pay a compliment seem to shower me in them . Maybe because you look the size of a house and they are trying to make you feel better – who cares, I’ll take what I can get!
Are you free this weekend? Don’t stop asking a friend to do stuff when they are pregnant, this is when they need the most invitations to feel that people care and are supportive. Maybe suggest a lunch, the cinema or a something cultural on a weekend afternoon.
What not to say
You look soooo tired.
Christ you are massive.
Don’t tell them that story of how your friend’s 5 month scan showed up deformities (told to me a week before my 5 month scan), or how your friends baby died at 38 weeks (told to me when I was 28 weeks pregnant) or how their baby died during childbirth (when 3 months pregnant). I know these things pop to mind when discussing babies, pregnancy and birth with a pregnant women but trust me this is not your audience.
How much weight have you put on so far?
Can you take this box to the stationary room please.
It’s your turn to wash up.
Did you enjoy this post? If so please support the writer: like, share and comment!
Why not , too? You can share posts & events immediately. It's free!
Writer, baker, body scrub maker. Part time corporate copywriter. Wannabe freelance writer. Blog writer, read mostly by my mum.
LIST 
