When the bully becomes the bullied.

Spooniemum_4 - 26 Jan 20

My youngest daughter (11) has recently been caught up in a cyber bullying incident. Following a falling out, she and 2 others created a page trolling another girl of the same age, it was up for 1 day before my daughter cracked and told me & her Teacher all about it. Page has been deleted, internet is banned & a sorry letter has been written to the other girl. I’m not here to make excuses, she knows her behaviour was appalling, she has faced consequences both at home and at school and has been warned about the long term effects of bullying on others.

Now, no one & no consequence could hurt her more than how she’s beating herself up over this. She’s finding it so difficult to forgive herself and I feel it’s really affecting her. She’s always been super sensitive and worries so much about what others think of her.

Unfortunately she’s being ostracized by her whole class. Kids are having a go, telling her how mean she is and she has nowhere to turn for support, apart from the other 2 girls involved, who she doesn’t really want to remain close to. She’s come home in tears, every day for the last week and this weekend has been awful, she’s absolutely dreading returning to school on Monday.

I can understand the fall out and will not make excuses for her behaviour but her little heart is breaking.

Trying to support her through this emotional, stressful time, knowing she brought it on herself is one of the hardest parenting paths we’ve ever navigated.

Any idea’s on how to manage this kind of situation?

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Spooniemum_4

I am a mum of 4 aged from 11-21. I suffer with chronic illnesses & social anxiety (hence spooniemum) As a child I wanted to work with children but after having 4 of my own I went into office & admin work instead. Office life isn't for me! Now my children are older, I'm currently studying to become a Teaching Assistant to work with children ages 5-11.

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