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I grew him in my womb. I loved him before he was born. I birthed him. I carried him home from the hospital. I nursed around the clock. He was here. I thought that my husband and I had brought the same baby back from the hospital, but boy was I mistaken.
After a mere six days, Sebastian had learned that to cry brought mummy instantly. And as he developed, he decided that gurgles and smiles got more of a response from daddy. He looked to daddy for silly voices and to me for meeting practical demands of more milk or a nappy change.
Don’t get me
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wrong, this is not a complaint but more a declaration of wonderment. Prior to having my son, I’d read the books (okay, so browsed a couple of websites). I was aware that babies develop fast in the first year, their brains soaking up everything like sponges. But I had no idea that in addition to developing language and motor skills they were learning how to get such different responses from those around them. In the past twelve months I have seen my baby develop so many nuances in his behaviour towards me and in turn his father.
With regards to my
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son’s approach to solid food, when he’s with me he will only feed himself in a baby led weaning manner – and only when I’m eating too. When he’s with daddy, he does not need to see daddy eat and will take a spoon or have food placed in his mouth. The differences go on from the games and toys he wants to play with to the books he wants us to read. He even has preferences as to who does what when it comes to getting ready for bed, opting for mummy to wash his hair and daddy to brush his teeth.
We have come to enjoy noticing the differences and
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finding wonder and excitement in just how willful this little one is, (a fact that may be problematic in the future). For now it’s fun to see this little man learn about people, how to interact, and let’s face it, how to get his own way – most of the time.
Motherhood is different for all of us… if you’d like to share your thoughts, why not join our Network & start posting?
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Nicolette Lafonseca Hargreaves - 11 Feb 15
I grew him in my womb. I loved him before he was born. I birthed him. I carried him home from the hospital. I nursed around the clock. He was here. I thought that my husband and I had brought the same baby back from the hospital, but boy was I mistaken.
After a mere six days, Sebastian had learned that to cry brought mummy instantly. And as he developed, he decided that gurgles and smiles got more of a response from daddy. He looked to daddy for silly voices and to me for meeting practical demands of more milk or a nappy change.
Don’t get me wrong, this is not a complaint but more a declaration of wonderment. Prior to having my son, I’d read the books (okay, so browsed a couple of websites). I was aware that babies develop fast in the first year, their brains soaking up everything like sponges. But I had no idea that in addition to developing language and motor skills they were learning how to get such different responses from those around them. In the past twelve months I have seen my baby develop so many nuances in his behaviour towards me and in turn his father.
With regards to my son’s approach to solid food, when he’s with me he will only feed himself in a baby led weaning manner – and only when I’m eating too. When he’s with daddy, he does not need to see daddy eat and will take a spoon or have food placed in his mouth. The differences go on from the games and toys he wants to play with to the books he wants us to read. He even has preferences as to who does what when it comes to getting ready for bed, opting for mummy to wash his hair and daddy to brush his teeth.
We have come to enjoy noticing the differences and finding wonder and excitement in just how willful this little one is, (a fact that may be problematic in the future). For now it’s fun to see this little man learn about people, how to interact, and let’s face it, how to get his own way – most of the time.
Motherhood is different for all of us… if you’d like to share your thoughts, why not join our Network & start posting?
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After many years of working in development in the UK and overseas, the social worker in me decided to take her opinions on life to a global platform, so I started a blog. Through this blog I discovered that I loved writing. My friends and family suggested that I find an alternative outlet for my sardonic ranting that was not the dinner table, I found Selfish Mother.
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