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WHY MAMAS NEED SAFETY MASKS FIRST
But, over the last decade, parenthood in the western world has felt so kid-centric that it’s easy to imagine a plane-crashing-scenario where only the children survive. They’d be whooshing down the emergency slide, safety-masks firmly on while us mothers writhe around in the
Because it’s natural, when looking after little folk to let their needs come first. After all, we as mothers have a burning instinct to nurture our AMAZING, BEAUTIFUL creations, and we want them to have the best that life can offer – of course! We see the miracle of them growing and learning every single day, and we feel honoured to be a part of it. They are our babies – whether they’re 6 months old or 16 years-old.
The natural order of things is that we
And that’s ok. Because that’s what IT is all about. Right?
But, then, recently it’s felt like society at large has got in a weird baby-groove where kids
We’ve got bookshelves brimming with childcare guides which have us busy as bees keeping up. Then there’s the unspoken competitiveness (with who?), as we try to keep up with after-school clubs, extra-curricular Russian lessons, play-dates (our kid has to be the most
But, as we rush about ensuring we follow the ’rules,’ feeding them, teaching them, nurturing them, worrying about their schooling, and ferrying them to this party and countless clubs – this is all GREAT of us, because we’re doing our best – but, I wonder, when are we leaving any time for ourselves?
Is it still great if prioritising them becomes so the norm that we forget to think about us… as women? That we forget to nurture ourselves in the process… and secretly
The happiest and most balanced mothers I know are the ones who put their needs up their with their children’s. Not to the detriment, of. And the funny thing is that this doesn’t mean the children suffer or miss out in any way, it actually means they benefit – from having a happy mother,
The short game is that looking after ourselves as well as our kids can make us happy on a daily basis, it can build our self-confidence, spur us on, and it can also improve our relationships with our partners… and our kids! And the long game is that we know who we are and have interests, when our kids up-stick and leave home. Whether we’re into meditation, yoga,
I don’t think we should trying to be the person we were pre-kids. Because we’ve evolved from that person. But, if on a daily basis we think about what we need as well as what our kids (and our partner) need… then we’ll be going a little way to still feeling like US, as well as Mum. And however much we LOVE being mothers, it’s nice to be another entity, too.
So… let’s see how good we are putting our masks on first.
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1) INTRODUCE YOURSELF
This might sound a little funny, but it’s a good-en. Introduce yourself to your kids. They know you as mummy (or mom), but let them meet YOU, and then tell them what you like doing. EG: “My name’s Molly and I like going to yoga every Tuesday night because it makes me happy.” Your kids will respect this, and feel part of your life, so instead of bawling when you go out, they might even pick up your yoga mat and push you out of the door.
2) ADD YOU TO YOUR TTDs
Don’t make your daily
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THINK WIN WIN
Just like in business, think of ways to bring WIN WIN into your every-day life with your kids. Think about what YOU want to do, as well as what THEY want to do and combine the two as much as possible. Your days don’t have to revolve around soft plays for instance. An energising walk for you can mean a ride on their bike for them. A pedicure for you might mean they get entertained by eager-salon staff while you’re pampered. A lunch out at a restaurant YOU