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Youth, Ageing & Fear
It staggers me sometimes.
Not because I hate getting older or want to stay young – in fact I like getting older – even in terms of how I look. I find it interesting.
But when I say the number outloud it doesn’t make sense.
How can I still not feel like a grown-up when I am by society’s standards classed as middle-aged ?
When I asked my incredible 70 yr old stylish & spritely Mama whether she feels 70 – she said
“No darling I really feel no different inside than I did when I was young. I just
Often with age comes fear. I definitely feel more fear than I used to and I am committed everyday to trying to face it, feel it and do whatever the fuck I was going to anyway.
One place I have never been fearful is in what I wear.
I couldn’t give a toss what anyone else thinks about what I choose to wear. If it makes me feel good and I love it, I wear it.
So I love that in my work as a Personal Style mentor with clients I can help men and women who are fearful in expressing
But it is not helped by society, which tells women that youth is king and as you get older you must become invisible and silent.
Often people feel they are too old to dress a certain way, but I help them realise it is all a state of mind.
Taking chances, being daring and playful in their clothes is something anyone at any age can do and you will be happier for it.
We do not stop
It seems simple when you put it like that but it is true.
I mean, I still like things I loved when I was a really young; kid bubbles, balloons, splashing in puddles, see-saws, scooters, lego, Snoopy, puppet shows, Calvin & Hobbes and dress-ups of course.
I still like to turn the music up loud in the car and sing tunelessly along. I still dance around the kitchen to Ella Fitzgerald with my husband whilst making dinner, or have an impromptu water fight with the
I also still like to wear clothes that are fun, make me happy and make me feel however I want to feel that day.
I am inspired everyday by the cool women I am surrounded by – my clients, my family, friends, colleagues, my friends’ children and my children who face fear and just go for it.
This year I want to do some things I have been afraid of for a long time.
This year my birthday wish is for women and Mamas like me –
Here is to the next 44 years of being a bit wilder.
Telling fear to F-off, after all it’s just a
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