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You’ve Got This!

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Ok… where’s the empowering drum roll for all you amazing ladies…
Yes that’s right… I’m getting all Beyoncé on you all! Just a little pep talk/ pick me up/regroup/ refresh <3
I really think that us mothers need to stop giving ourselves such a hard time. Can we just focus on all the amazing things that we have accomplished? Stop watching everyone else and enjoy the wonders of what’s in front of you.

I’m so guilty of looking at other people lives and wondering the ’what ifs?’ and ’buts’. When I find myself in a little rut such as

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this, all I really need to do is look at my little brood and be thankful. We have a loving little family and even though we haven’t left the house that day we’ve really been up to all sorts, we have the mess to prove it!

We are always wishing for more, whether it be lifestyle, image, or money. Take a breathe and clear your mind of all these stresses, sit back and watch your children from afar, notice how hilarious they are, I guarantee it will make you feel better. I’m not sure why we look at the negative so often but it is a massive weight to

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carry. The truth is that we only see a snippet of other peoples lives, who knows that after that lovely family photo you’ve seen on social media, all hell broke loose… we can only hope, right?

If your child’s behaviour is making you feel frustrated and tired, rethink the whole situation. Turn it into a positive, focus on how you deal with it, and feel proud of yourself that you get through the tough moments. Children cannot be predicted, we all know it can all flip at any second. Just as long as you don’t beat yourself up over the whys and just

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move on. As I’ve mentioned before, talking about it can make such a difference, even the children that you think are angels can be devils behind closed doors. If you know a friend who is having a little trouble you’d be amazed how a few kind words can make her feel. I know this from personal experience. We’re all in it together and going through similar journeys, let’s help each other out!

If money is a little tight then don’t go to soft play, have a little fun at home or go to the park. You will find that most mothers (especially on maternity

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leave) are feeling the same strain. Just nobody likes to talk about it. Maybe suggest a little walk and take a flask of hot chocolate, much better than those enclosed, overpriced, screamfests!

Another joy of social media is that it seems like the world and their cherubs are constantly going on awesome days out. Am I the only one who stays in all day watching ”Tiny Pop” getting cabin fever?… of course not… television as well as your children’s diet is another taboo of motherhood. Luella is going to turn into a bowl of pasta at this

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rate!

Really there so many things that make us feel guilty and at a dead end whether it’s breastfeeding, going back to work, or housework, the list is endless. We just need to remember what is important and please, please, please remember that raising children is bloody tough and you are doing an amazing job. If it wasn’t for you they wouldn’t be on this earth being fed, clothed and loved. Just keep it simple, think of everything you’ve done today, not everything you haven’t. Enjoy your time with your babies… the washing can wait. <3 xxx

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- 15 May 16

Ok… where’s the empowering drum roll for all you amazing ladies…
Yes that’s right… I’m getting all Beyoncé on you all! Just a little pep talk/ pick me up/regroup/ refresh <3

I really think that us mothers need to stop giving ourselves such a hard time. Can we just focus on all the amazing things that we have accomplished? Stop watching everyone else and enjoy the wonders of what’s in front of you.

I’m so guilty of looking at other people lives and wondering the ‘what ifs?’ and ‘buts’. When I find myself in a little rut such as this, all I really need to do is look at my little brood and be thankful. We have a loving little family and even though we haven’t left the house that day we’ve really been up to all sorts, we have the mess to prove it!

We are always wishing for more, whether it be lifestyle, image, or money. Take a breathe and clear your mind of all these stresses, sit back and watch your children from afar, notice how hilarious they are, I guarantee it will make you feel better. I’m not sure why we look at the negative so often but it is a massive weight to carry. The truth is that we only see a snippet of other peoples lives, who knows that after that lovely family photo you’ve seen on social media, all hell broke loose… we can only hope, right?

If your child’s behaviour is making you feel frustrated and tired, rethink the whole situation. Turn it into a positive, focus on how you deal with it, and feel proud of yourself that you get through the tough moments. Children cannot be predicted, we all know it can all flip at any second. Just as long as you don’t beat yourself up over the whys and just move on. As I’ve mentioned before, talking about it can make such a difference, even the children that you think are angels can be devils behind closed doors. If you know a friend who is having a little trouble you’d be amazed how a few kind words can make her feel. I know this from personal experience. We’re all in it together and going through similar journeys, let’s help each other out!

If money is a little tight then don’t go to soft play, have a little fun at home or go to the park. You will find that most mothers (especially on maternity leave) are feeling the same strain. Just nobody likes to talk about it. Maybe suggest a little walk and take a flask of hot chocolate, much better than those enclosed, overpriced, screamfests!

Another joy of social media is that it seems like the world and their cherubs are constantly going on awesome days out. Am I the only one who stays in all day watching “Tiny Pop” getting cabin fever?… of course not… television as well as your children’s diet is another taboo of motherhood. Luella is going to turn into a bowl of pasta at this rate!

Really there so many things that make us feel guilty and at a dead end whether it’s breastfeeding, going back to work, or housework, the list is endless. We just need to remember what is important and please, please, please remember that raising children is bloody tough and you are doing an amazing job. If it wasn’t for you they wouldn’t be on this earth being fed, clothed and loved. Just keep it simple, think of everything you’ve done today, not everything you haven’t. Enjoy your time with your babies… the washing can wait. <3 xxx

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