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How to be a Parent at Christmas (without completely losing your shit)
Yep. I’m down with the goodwill. Sign me up for lots of that shizzle.
I just have one quick question (and if you know me; you know it won’t be quick in any way shape or form): Where the fuck has the ‘peace’ bit of ‘peace and goodwill’ gone!? There is literally not another month of the year which is such a thief of peace. Not even August, when the kids have hit the ‘I’m bored’ phase of the summer holidays and you get that ‘I need a gin’ twitch at 2pm instead of 5pm. Nope,
As well as the insane amount of year-round life admin that is required to look after myself and four boys; in the run up to Christmas we can add in the following:
•Christmas Jumper Day. At my work and at the boys school. But obviously not on the same day as that would be too easy.
• School Christmas parties for both big boys. Again, not on the same day…don’t be silly. Parties require not only an outfit but a plate of party food, wrapped in cellophane. Plates must not
• School nativity costumes. Don’t. Get. Me. Started.
• School carol concerts. At differing locations across the borough. Definitely don’t hold them in the school hall. Too straightforward.
• Gifts for teachers, teaching assistants, student teachers. Competitive wrapping/gift boxes required. Woe betide you if you’re the sorry shower-of-shit Mum who takes in a box of Maltesers from Spar. (Always me.)
• Forms to say your child can go to the carol concerts off-site, forms to say children can
Those are just a few of the ridiculous Christmas-related minutiae which result in grown women breaking down in Sainsbury’s and sobbing into a random cashiers bosom on December 21st. I’ve seen it happen.
And the worst thing about it is that so much of our Christmas stress is self inflicted. We have collectively stolen that peace from ourselves. We have given ourselves an insanely long list
We have replaced our festive peace with elves on bastard shelves, Christmas Eve boxes (for fucks sake), tea-parties with Santa (which completely balls up the story we drum into kids that Santa only leaves the North Pole on Christmas Eve) and visits to
Think about your memories from Christmas as a kid. I bet not one of them involves Lapland or a ‘once in a lifetime gingerbread-making with Mrs Claus experience’. Most likely you remember going to an an-dram pantomime, meeting Santa outside Woolworths in your local precinct, finding the presents your Mum had hidden in the cupboard under the stairs. No frills, no fuss, no huge expense. But those memories still give you all the warm nostalgic feels don’t they?
Now I’m not
Anyway I’m making it my mission from now on. Peace is going to be as high on the agenda as goodwill next year. I’m not booking a ride on Santa’s sleigh in September at a cost of £20 per child. I’m allowing myself to breathe. And if that means my kids are the only ones wearing school uniform for Christmas Jumper day…then someone will just have to call social services.
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