Be Aware of the Strong Ones

PinkHairDontCare - 12 Apr 18

Do you know who it’s tough for? The strong women. The super strength strongity-strong ladies. The ones who people assume will be ok. The ones who are told “I don’t know how you do it, you’re superwoman”. It is incredibly hard for them to ask for help, because once they do, they’re just like everyone else, that hero status has ended. And who wants to just be a regular person huh?! And I’m not talking about asking somebody to mind the children, or needing a favour. I’m talking about being able to admit you’re struggling or that you’re unhappy or that actually, life is just really friggin hard sometimes (I know #firstworldproblems right?!).

What I am shouting out for from this article is for the strong Mamas who aren’t ok with being a superhero. For those who just need somebody to confide in. For the ones who can’t ask for help, who just need somebody to give it. Generally, we say to people “let me know if you need me” or “text me if want to talk”, I do it myself. And it’s not that I don’t mean it at the time of saying it, but it puts the onus on the person you are offering to help. It makes them have to ask, and sometimes that’s just too tiring, it’s too exhausting, it’s just too much. At a time when we’re feeling vulnerable, or sad, or angry, what we actually need is somebody to step in and say “I’m free on Wednesday, come round for a coffee”, or “let your Dad watch the children tonight, let’s go for a drink”. Pro-active help, rather than reactive.

And I know why it happens. It’s harder to help a strong woman. They seem so independent and fearless, and the thought of even suggesting to them that they might need help is slightly daunting to us mere mortals. It’s easier just to assume that they’re fine. But we shouldn’t. We should still check-in with them as we do our other friends. Strong women are often perceived as hard faced and cold. Strength does not always translate well into being a “nice lady”. When a woman doesn’t feel the need to justify herself, or to run with the pack or is unafraid to speak her mind, she is often judged. Pigeon-holed as “a bit of a bitch”. But this is often not the case. Particularly because a strong woman usually gets their superhero status through hardship, through something bigger than themselves; something that has been indelibly imprinted on their very being.

So today lovely readers, be aware, be aware of the strong ones.

Love B xx

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