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International Women’s Day, Cancer & Me
They’re the ones facing a cancer diagnosis before their fortieth birthday.
They’re the mums with children too young to leave motherless or those who have had their fertility stolen; women who have an all-too-familiar story to tell, of months of dismissals by our GPs, of delays in treatment that have
I was 37 when I was diagnosed with stage 3 bowel cancer. In May 2017 this disease chucked a glass of water at a painting of my perfect life and made all the colours bleed and distort. Since then i’ve used many adjectives to describe my diagnosis – cruel, unfair, challenging… But the one that gets the least recognition is often the hardest.
Lonely.
Cancer isn’t an experience than most young adults are familiar with. It’s not a typical pub conversation or a conspirative whisper between two
It’s a difficult concept to get your head around when everyone else is moaning about the weather or booking their summer holidays. Instead we are faced with months of anxiety over CT scans and a future shrouded in uncertainty. We can fill our waking hours with as much love, noise and chaos as we like but there’s no escaping our own thoughts at 3am. The insecurities, the fear, the ‘what ifs’…
For these moments I rely on the kindness of strangers, that amazing group of women I mentioned.
Women like to feel included but a cancer diagnosis turns you into an outsider, especially at this age. Discovering the cancer community is like making that first best friend at a new school. You know they’ll be others but she’ll always be there for you no matter what.
I used to give my cancer too much power. Now, with the help of these women, i’ve overthrown that tired,
Cancer is the worst kind of thief. It steals those bedtime kisses with our babies when we’re in hospital or undergoing treatment. It might even rob them of their mother. It takes a special kind of woman to pick herself up after such a devastating blow.
So today i’m
Female solidarity at it’s finest.
xx
Beating Bowel Cancer forum HERE
Bowel Cancer UK HERE
Shine Cancer Support HERE