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It’s a Numbers Game
I may have been eating fresh, healthy and adventurous new meals inspired by my slimming club… but there’s a number on the scales that’ll tell me if I’ve succeeded or failed each week. Improved my life expectancy by doing a Saturday morning parkrun? I’ll be
So it was hardly surprising that with a new baby arriving on the scene, I would naturally start to measure a whole host of new things surrounding this monumental life change. Alongside the technology I’d installed to track how many feeds he’d had, or how many wet and dirty nappies
My trusty Fitbit, ever helpful with its sleep tracking feature, would assist me in this task, monitoring how much shut-eye I was actually getting and then presenting me with my results in the morning. If I’d miraculously managed 7 hours (For clarity – this is 7 hours cobbled together in bits and pieces over the night) then I’d be praised with a little green star on my home
If Jude had one of those nights where he woke up and cried every hour because he didn’t quite understand the world yet, then I might’ve scraped 4-ish hours. You didn’t meet your sleep goal blinked a little sad-faced emoji.
But don’t worry…to conquer the lows of being sleep-shamed by my own electronic device, I’d have the option to click on a link where I could peruse some “helpful” hints and tips to achieve a
Apparently I should be going to bed at the same time each night, misting my pillow with lavender, ensuring all distractions are eliminated (might struggle with that one seeing as babies are for life, not just for Christmas) and be mindful of my caffeine and alcohol intake. This last one made me laugh the loudest.
Ultimately, I knew precisely why I hadn’t slept well and who was responsible. I would bury my nose into the neck of the beautiful little sleep-thief curled up next to me and inhale deeply, stealing all of his
Not that this stopped me obsessing over the amount of sleep I was getting, mind. When I upgraded my Fitbit I got one that could give me even more stats to fuel my obsession. Oh yes, this gadget could even tell me
So, with this wealth of data available to me at the touch of a button, I approached “Project Sleep” with
Lovely Patient Husband (LPH) has been in the spare room for a good few months now. He’s not been banished or anything. It’s a mutual decision that we’ve arrived at because this arrangement allows him to get a full night’s slumber so that he can come home after work and take over kiddo-duty. Some nights I have literally thrust our son into his startled arms as he’s walked through the door, and stomped upstairs for a bath or a snooze, before he’s even had a chance to put
A good night’s kip also allows LPH to function in his job while he’s there. Oh, and to drive to his place of work without falling asleep at the wheel and colliding with a lorry – something else that my mind likes to play out at about 3am. Another top tip to help with restful slumber (strangely, not featured on the Fitbit’s Sleep Insights) is to not continually re-enact the tragic death of your partner at ridiculous hours of the night. Who knew?
So back to being knackered and very, very ratty. So ratty in fact, that
“You must be. I know how you feel, me too” proclaimed LPH. Bless him. He thought he was showing empathy. Maybe even a bit of solidarity in a right there with ya buddy kind of way. Oh, what a mistake.
Because f**k right off! Nobody was going to steal the exhaustion crown from me! It was mine and I’d bloody well earnt it with every unsociably timed breast feed, every time I woke to a
“You f****ng what?!!” I scoffed. “You don’t know what exhausted even is! Look at this…. Go on…look at it. LOOK AT IT!!” I yelled as I thrust my phone, with its affirming Fitbit sleep stats in his face like a demented banshee. “18 minutes of deep sleep! 18 bastard minutes!”
As LPH stared at me with a look that I can only describe as imminent
Sometimes I feel like I’ve had a decent night’s sleep. I feel refreshed, alert and ready for the day. Then I check my stats – CRASH – back down I come. Only 5 hours. Well that’s it then – I can’t possibly feel this good on 5 hours, it must be a false positive. Activate ratbag mode.
I sometimes wonder whether ignorance is, in fact, bliss. Are we better off being in the dark about certain things?
Recently two of my good friends have been totally on point with their diets and
“I felt thinner today” sobbed one friend. “My clothes felt looser, I wasn’t bloated, so I was convinced
“That’s nothing” exclaimed my other friend. “I haven’t weighed myself in nearly two years, but I had to be weighed at Boots today and I’m not much different from when I started my fitness journey two years ago! It’s actually soul destroying. What’s the point?!”
You’ll kindly note that both of these ladies have dropped several dress sizes, have seen their times to run a 5k plummet week on week, they’re smashing it on the
So why are we always looking to piss on our own party? Why can’t we just enjoy things for what they are, without trying to obsessively measure things?
Once upon a time, a retrospective measure of something really killed the joy for me, when it turned out that the marathon I’d done in
Now rationally, I walked (ok, hobbled) WAY more than 380 metres back to the car park after the race, and had also walked a significant distance to actually get to the start line. So did I cover 26.2
I guess the moral of this tale is that measurements are great for some situations (like,