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It’s ok to say motherhood is hard, right?
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”It’s the most rewarding job in the world and I love being a mum but …..”
I seem to caveat the topic about what it’s like to be a mother (fairly new) with the above. Why? Is it because I am a bad mother and miss the days when I could lie on the sofa and do nothing or am I a realist.
When we found out we were expecting our little girl, there were tears of joy and soon after that, the reality that this was pretty big! Monumental some would say. 9 months passed with dinners out, late nights (11.30pm was considered late, that’s an allnighter
I seem to caveat the topic about what it’s like to be a mother (fairly new) with the above. Why? Is it because I am a bad mother and miss the days when I could lie on the sofa and do nothing or am I a realist.
When we found out we were expecting our little girl, there were tears of joy and soon after that, the reality that this was pretty big! Monumental some would say. 9 months passed with dinners out, late nights (11.30pm was considered late, that’s an allnighter
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now) and basically self indulging.
Our girl arrived at the beginning of January and my goodness, was that another shock. Firstly my love for her was overwhelming. It felt too much. How can you love something this much? But we did, then we fell out of love with her for a split second when she wouldn’t stop crying. Again was I even allowed to emit those feelings?
Time passed us by with a move to a new area. We coped, actually I coped. A new mum, in a new area, with a little person demanding my every breath because she was learning herself. But we
Our girl arrived at the beginning of January and my goodness, was that another shock. Firstly my love for her was overwhelming. It felt too much. How can you love something this much? But we did, then we fell out of love with her for a split second when she wouldn’t stop crying. Again was I even allowed to emit those feelings?
Time passed us by with a move to a new area. We coped, actually I coped. A new mum, in a new area, with a little person demanding my every breath because she was learning herself. But we
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coped. Or so I thought.
Through sleep regressions, teething, sleep regressions, teething (sorry is there anything else… oh wonder weeks…) we got through it but I cried, cried and cried from sheer exhaustion. And wondering if I was a good enough mum.
I had to accept the need to see the Gp for some medication and that changed my outlook. I realised I was not superhuman, I didn’t have to cope. What was coping anyway? I spent years fighting the need for medication and doing things that help me – exercise, breathing, relaxation etc. But let’s face
Through sleep regressions, teething, sleep regressions, teething (sorry is there anything else… oh wonder weeks…) we got through it but I cried, cried and cried from sheer exhaustion. And wondering if I was a good enough mum.
I had to accept the need to see the Gp for some medication and that changed my outlook. I realised I was not superhuman, I didn’t have to cope. What was coping anyway? I spent years fighting the need for medication and doing things that help me – exercise, breathing, relaxation etc. But let’s face
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it, when you are sleep deprived, trying to settle in, make new friends, adjust to being a mum and missing your own mum like crazy, it’s no wonder I needed a little help. I can see that now.
For those mums who need help, ask. Reach out to those around you – don’t be afraid or embarrassed.
You are a Mother – the most rewarding, terrifying, heartwarming, heartbreaking and most brilliant job in the world.
If we can give birth, we can do anything
– Warrior woman –
For those mums who need help, ask. Reach out to those around you – don’t be afraid or embarrassed.
You are a Mother – the most rewarding, terrifying, heartwarming, heartbreaking and most brilliant job in the world.
If we can give birth, we can do anything
– Warrior woman –
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