No Mum Is An Island. How Ibiza Tamed The Party Girl And Raised a Mother

Jade Gooding - 18 Jun 20

There is a huge transition from living in Ibiza, as an on the scene party girl to single mama on the same island with very few friends with kids.

You can go to DC10 6 months pregnant, tea total and dance to Donna Summer “I Feel Love” being all about the white isle love and free spirit, whilst feeling excited about the possibilities of life as a new mum.

It’s OK to get through the pregnancy you can still be part of your old life, the life you have lived for 10 years first as a DJ’s wife, then divorced for 2 years as an Ibiza party girl!

Then bang you have a baby. Not only that but a baby in a relationship with a guy you dated for 8 weeks when you found out you were 6 weeks pregnant. SH*T. No family in the same country and the harsh realisation that your best friends are still awake dancing at 6 am when you wake up with a newborn (thankfully not in the same house!).

Fast forward a year of struggling to work with said newborn, trying to find a new identity, miles from family, and now single.

This was me. My life was a mess.

Unable to work full time due to my tiny baby (usually I spent a week a month in the UK for clients)  I had gone from cash-rich party girl to breadline single mum. In my darkest moment, I had this huge epiphany – I have two choices:

1. I could slide back into my old Ibiza party girl life. Easy. Hungover single mum by day and party girl by night.

or

1. I could sort my life out, look in the mirror, and upgrade myself. Body, Mind. Soul and Mama.

I made a choice for my daughter.

I stopped partying, decided to go tea total, an incredible personal trainer offered to train me for before and after photos. I started meditating daily, I read The Miracle Morning, getting up at 5 am for ‘me time’ before my toddler woke.  I studied Positive Psychology online every night. I found gratitude for all my challenges.

As my daughter grew up her strong will and temper made me think I would break MANY times and on a few occasions I did, it forced me into reading endless parenting books, taking online courses, and arming myself with a powerful toolset to upgrade the mama in me.

It was one of the hardest journeys of my life to get fit, to get sober, to train my mind to confront things that  I had never addressed. To be a present, conscious mother. It was a really, REALLY lonely journey. All the while I wanted to share my journey but imposter syndrome kicked in, who was I to share my journey.  But really I had transformed my life for the better and I wanted to support others who were ready to do the same.

As I won big new client accounts, met an amazing new partner (who is now my husband), and got great qualifications, I started hosting days of outdoor learning to teach parents some of the amazing parenting tools I had learned, I found my confidence.

There were so many amazing experts I wanted to share nuggets from, to help support other mums on their own journeys of personal development. Be that, how to launch your own business, to get in shape, handle your kid’s tantrums without losing it yourself or how to reduce your household waste.  I wanted  to inspire others.

Why? Because our children are watching us. They want to see who we will become as much as we want to see who they become.

So as of today, No Mum Is An Island is born. For a while, I thought I was an island, alone. But, living on one of the most beautiful islands in the world, I discovered that truly No Mum Is An Island and there are always others out there to be inspired by and to connect with.

So if you need inspiration or if you want to connect come and find me www.nomumisanisland.com

Jade Gooding

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